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Hitguj » Views and Comments » Relationships » इतर » अशावेळी तुम्ही काय करता? » Archive through October 21, 2005 « Previous Next » Arch Thursday, October 20, 2005 - 1:57 pm:      GaratIlaca ikMvaa javaLcaIca eKadI vyai> tumhalaa kQaI kQaI duKavato. %yaa vyai>caa svaaiBamaana mhNaa ikMvaa AhMkar mhNaa caukla ho kLt AsaUnahI maaÔI maagaayalaa ikMvaa nausat caukla mhNaayalaa tyaar nasatÜ. AXaa GaTnaa varcaovar hÜ} laagalyaa kI tumhalaahI ivasarNaM AvaGaD hÜt. AaiNa tI vya>I samaÜr AalaI kI BaUtkaLat GaDlaolyaa gaÜYTI tumhalaa Aazvatat AaiNa tumacaI %yaacyaaXaI vaagaNaUk badlato. ivasa$na jaaNaM ho mhNaNyaa[tk saÜPp nasat. AXaavaoLI tumhI kaya krtaÆ Supermom Thursday, October 20, 2005 - 2:08 pm:      Aaca- ÊtU mhNatosa to AgadI Kro Aaho.kQaIkQaI hI vya>I vayaanao vaDIlaQaarI pNa Asato. AXaa vaoLI maI trI jaovaZ\yaasa tovaZo baÜlato AaiNa kmaItkmaI saMbaQa zovato.yaat %yaa vya>Icyaa Apmaanaacaa maaJaa hotU nasatÜ tr Aaplyaalaa kmaItkmaI manastap vhavaa Asao vaaTt Asato.maaJao krNao barÜbar nasaolahI kdaicat pNa maI Garat lahana Asalyaanao malaa trI haca ]paya saucatÜ.karNa kuzlyaahI pirisqatIt maÜz\yaaMcaa Apmaana tr hÜ] Vayacaa nasatÜ. Yogibear Thursday, October 20, 2005 - 2:23 pm:      AXyaa vaoLI mhNajao jaovha tI vya>I ³vayaanao maÜzI AsaÜ vaa CÜTI´ tumhalaa duKavato tovha maI trI saMvaad %yaa vaoLo purta mayaa-dIt zovatÜ jyaanao kÉna Xabdanao Xabd vaaZNaar naahI AaiNa ragaacyaa Barat AplyaakDunahI ApXabd jaa] nayao hI %yaa maagacaI Baavanaa Asato. naMtr savaDInao ³eKadI vaoL saaQauna´ jaovha %yaa vya>I maQao AaiNa Aaplyaa maQalao vaatavarNa saamaMjasyaacao Asaola tovha mau_ama ivaYaya kZuna ³Ôar kzINa kama jaovha tI vya>I vaDIlaQaarI Asato´ %yaa vya>IXaI Jaalaolyaa p`karavar ³kaLjaI puva-k´ Aaplao mat maaMDNao AaiNa %yaat %yaa vya>IcaI baajau sauwa samaJauna GaoNao Asaa p`ya%na AsatÜ.... (acaa malaa Jaalaolaa Ôyada Asaa kI naMtr sauwa tI vya>I AaplaI cauk maanya krtoca Asao naahI pNa kuzotrI %yaa vya>I pya-Mt Aaplao ivacaar pÜhÜcalaolao Asatat AaiNa %yaa vya>Icao vaagaNao AgadI ratÜrat badlalaolao nasalao trI %yaat hLu hLU Ôrk, jaaNavatÜ..... Supermom Thursday, October 20, 2005 - 2:30 pm:      yaÜga pNa hI vya>I vaDIlaQaarI Asaola tr %yaa ivaYayaavar baÜlaNaohI AXa@ya Asato.ivacaar k$na pha.maÜz\yaaMcaI bahutok vaoLa maI maÜza Aaho maI caukUca Xakt naahI hIca Baavanaa Asato.yaivaÉw vaagaNaarI maÜzI maaNasaM jyaanaa laaBalaI AsatIla to Kroca Baagyavaana. Supermom Thursday, October 20, 2005 - 2:31 pm:      soory yogibear maI Gaašt vaacalao. Divya Thursday, October 20, 2005 - 2:37 pm:      kmaItkmaI saMbaMQa zovaNyaacaa ]paya tr caaMgalaacaÊ maI svata AXaa laÜkaMnaa saaMgaNyaacyaahI ÔMdat pDt naahI ik tumaca [qao caukla AaiNa malaa to laagala vaOgaroÊ kahI ]pyaÜga hÜt naahI Xabdanao Xabd vaaZt jaatÜ. pNa maaJaa raga na baÜlaunaca vya> hÜtÜÊ Aata Agaidca javaLcaI vya>I Asaola tr ivacaartoca ik kaya Jaala trca saaMgato. Yogibear Thursday, October 20, 2005 - 2:46 pm:      Supermom: AgadI barÜbar AahoÊ maaJaa AnauBava vaDIlaQaarI vya>I barÜbarcaaca AahoÊ tI maMDLI cauk maanya krtatca Asao naahI pNa AapNa Aaplao ivacaar %yaaMcyaa samaÜr saamaMjasyaanao ³cacao-cyaa sva$pat´ maaMDlao ³tXaI vaoL XaÜZNao AaiNa mau_ama tÜ ivaYaya kaZNao saÜPpo nasato´ tr kuzotrI %yaaMnaa ho jaaNavato kI %yaaMcyaa tXyaa vaagaNyaanao / baÜlaNyaanao Aaplyaalaa ~asa hÜt Aaho AaiNa maga tumhalaa %yaaMcyaatlaa Ôrk, na@kIca jaaNavaola... Ô@,t qaÜDa QaIr Qaravaa... ratÜrat eKaVa vya>Inao badlaavao AXaI Apoxaa Asau nayao... Divya: ‘kmaItkmaI saMbaMQa zovaNao’ saÜPpa ]paya Asalaa trI naatI hI jaÜpasaayacaI Asatat tÜDayacaI nasatat AaiNa tu saucavalaolaa ]paya ha pLpuTopNaa Jaalaa naahI ka²²² Life is full of problems and one needs to "solve" them not run away from them....!!! Punyanagarikar Thursday, October 20, 2005 - 2:48 pm:      saMbaMQa kmaI krNaM AaiNa jaovhZ\yaasa tovaZo baÜlaNaM ho @vaicat ikvha rÜja jao BaoTt naaihtÊ %yaaMnaaca laagaU hÜ} XaktM. rÜja ekaca Garat rhaNaaáyaaMnaI Asa vaagaUna GaratlaM pUNa-M atmosphere Kraba hÜ}na jaatM. kQaI kQaI tI vya>I jaaNauna baujauna ³Asauyao pÜTI mhNaaÊ ragaa pÜTI mhNaa´ Asa vaagato. kiQa kiQa nakLt Asa vaagato. bahutok vaoLa AvaGaD gaolaM trI gaPpM basaUna manaalaa na laavaUna GaoNaca XahaNapNaacaM AsatM. puZo (a ivaYayaavar saMbaMiQataMXaI baÜlaNaM Xa@ya Asaola tr ]<ama. tXaI saMQaI ja$r GyaavaI AaiNa AaplaM mat maaMDavaM Nayana Thursday, October 20, 2005 - 2:51 pm:      Aaca- malaa (acaa caangalaa experience Aaho. AaNaI it vya>I AXaI Aaho kI maÜDona pNa vaakNaar naahI.maI pNa AXaa vya>IXaI contact naahI zovat. pna ho p`krNa jar Garatlaoca Asaola tr specially saasarI AapNa tsao vaagau Xakt naahI. AamcyaakDo tr maIca lahana Aaho. kQaI kQaI KUp manastap hÜtÜ. maI ek zrvato. 1´kimatkima contact zovaNao 2´ tI vya>I caangalaI vaagaÜ iknvaa nakÜ vaagaudot.malaa kahI frk pDat naahI­ means I am totally fine AXaI manaacaI stIiqa kÉna GaoNao. baGaa pTto Aaho kaÆ Supermom Thursday, October 20, 2005 - 2:59 pm:      yogibear ho vaaTto tovaZo Kroca saÜpo naahI.mah%vaacaM mhNajao hI vya>I jaovha tumhalaa ~asa doNyaasaazIca Asao vaagat AsalaI tr ÆsamajautInao baÜlaUnahIÊ iktI hI p`omaanao baÜlaUnahI AapNa ]wT zrt AsalaÜ tr ÆAaiNa yaa vya>IXaI baÜlaayacaI Garat kÜNaacaIca ihmmat nasaola trÆ Maitreyee Thursday, October 20, 2005 - 3:04 pm:      yaÜgaIcao mhNaNao pTNyaasaarKo vaaTlao. maaJyaa mato yaa p`Xnaacao ]<ar vyai>nausaar AaiNa pirisqait nausaar vaogavaogaLI AsaNaar. [qao ekacyaa ]payaacaa dusaáyaalaa Ôar Ôayada hÜNyaacaI Xa@yata kmaIca² Yogibear Thursday, October 20, 2005 - 3:19 pm:      Supermom: saÜPpo Asato tr ha p`XNaca ]pisqat Jaalaa nasata naahI ka² saÜPpo kahIca nasatoÊ to AapNaca saÜPpo krayacao Asato... tu mhNatosa tXaI pirisqait AsalaI tr maa~ yauw patLIvar laZašcaI tyaarI kravaI ³mhNajao XabdIk laZaš´ AaiNa Aaplyaalaa jamaola tsaa p`XNa saÜDvaayacaa p`ya%na kravaa... Maitreyee mhNato tsao vyai>nausaar AaiNa pirisqaitnausaar ]paya qaÜD\yaaÔar p`maaNaat vaogaLa Asaalaa trI mauL p`XNa saMvaad saaQauna / cacaa- kÉnaca saÜDvata yaošla... Arch Thursday, October 20, 2005 - 3:27 pm:      yaÜigaÊ naatI tÜDayacaI nasatat. pNa maaJyaamatoÊ caUk krNaaáyaalaa caUk maaiht AsaUna maanya krayacaI nasato AaiNa AapNa ivaYaya kaZlaa tr tI vya>I discussion nakÜ mhNaUna inaGaUna jaato. AaiNa puNya mhNato %yaap`maaNao Garatla vaatavarNa Kraba hÜt. puNyaÊ manaalaa laa}na na GaoNaM tsa saÜPp nasat. iktIhI p`ya%na kolaa trI ivasarla jaat naahI AaiNa Garatla maaNaUsa Asala tr saarKca najarosamaÜr AsalyaamauLo jaD jaat. naohomaI samajala jaat kI baayaka grudges zovatat. malaa [traMca maaiht naahI pNa maaJyaabaabatIt to Kr Aaho. puYakLda malaa vaaTt kI tI vyai> samaÜr AalaI kI deep breathing krava AaiNa AapNaca %yaalaa maaÔ k$na Takava ho ]pyaÜgaI pDola. pNa sava- saamaanya maaNasaalaa to krNa Krca AvaGaD Aaho. maO~oyaIÊ malaa vaaTt kI p`%yaokakDo kahI saaMgaNyaasaarK tsaca p`%yaokakDUna kahI iXakNyaasaarK Asat %yaamauLo discussion naMtr Krca kahI ]paya imaLU Xakola. Rangy Thursday, October 20, 2005 - 3:38 pm:      Sorry for posting in English, but I have little time and a lot to write. So this works best for me, at this time. I too think, there is no one solution to it. One definitely needs to give a try to make relations amicable, but that will only work when both parties want it. I do not have a solution, but can share an experience. I have had such an experience, which changed the depth our relations forever. This person (elderly and much respected) is as close as a family member so it was impossible to believe that he could say/do these things. My first reaction was that of complete disbelief, and I assured myself that may be in couple of days he would be sorry about it. Nothing happened. On the contrary, he was behaving as if nothing had happened! Even after making several attempts to talk and clarify the matter, and finally talking to him about that ( I did talk carefully), he chose to stand by what he did and even supported it further. It was very apparent to me that somewhere he knew that he made a mistake, but his ego was not letting him admit that. Anyway, I had completely lost my peace of mind. I finally realised that this whole thing was not my mistake, and that I did not deserve to be suffered like that. (As Nayana said in no 2). I forgave him, but it was impossible to forget! I kept minimum contact just because further contact was not helping either! One fine day, after couple of months, he did come up and admitted that it was his mistake and he was sorry about it! He did not want to discuss further about why he did it, or why it took him so much time to admit that. But that's ok. I am happy that he finally had the courage to admit his mistake. But despite of all that, I do feel that our realtions are never going to be the way they used to be. It has lost its innocence! Plus I had really tried hard to distance myself emotionally in those couple of months, so when he admitted his mistake I really felt neutral about the whole experience. Lalu Thursday, October 20, 2005 - 3:38 pm:      %yaa vya>Ilaa caUk kLlaI Aaho ho laxaat Aalyaavar %yaa vya>InaI tI maanya kravaI ikMvaa maafI maagaavaI Asaa Aaga`h QaÉ nayao. mah%vaacao kaya tr ‘caUk kLNao’. maanya krNao AaiNa maafI maagaNao yaacaa [XyaU kolaa kI itqao [gaÜ AaD yaotÜ AaiNa caUk kLlaolaI AsaUnasauwa tI puZcyaa vaoLI sauQaarlaI na jaaNyaacaI Xa@yata jaast. tovha barÜbar kÜNa iknvaa caUk kÜNa ho zrvaNyaa pya-nt saMvaad jaa} do} nayao. %yaapoxaa barÜbar kaya AaiNa caUk kaya ho dÜGaaMcyaa laxaat AalaM mhNajao JaalaM. ivaYaya itqaoca saMpvaavaa. eKaVa vya>IcaI caUk tumhI kXaI daKvaUna dota yaavar puZcaM barMca AvalambaUna AsatM. yaÜgaIÊ Cana ilaihlaM Aahosa. Divya Thursday, October 20, 2005 - 3:47 pm:      Yogibear kmaItkmaI saMbaMQa zovaNyaacaa ]paya ha baahorcyaaMbarÜbar na@kIca jamau XaktÜ AaiNa tÜ pLpuTopNaacaa ksaa hÜ[la barÊ jyaa vya>Icaa ~asa AaiNa manastapca hÜt Asaola Aina %yaa vya>Ilaa jar %yaacaI jaaiNava nasaola AaiNa jaaNauna GyaayacaI ih [cCa nasaola tr BaaMDt basaNyaapoxaa na@kIca XahaNapNaacao zrola. AaiNa tI vya>I jar GaratlaIca Asaola tr AvaGaD Aaho.. [kDo AaD [kDo ivahIr AXaIca pirsqaItI hÜNaar. Asa Asaola tr jaast ivacaar krayacaa naahI %yaa vya>Icaa AaiNa %yaacao baÜlaNao manaalaa laavauna Gyaayacao naahIÊ var Aaplyaalaa jao krayacao toca krayacao Balao %yaa vya>Icyaa manaaivaÉw ka Asaonaa..¤ho saasarkDcyaa laÜkaMbaabatIt ]pyaÜgaI pDu Xakola ha Aagaa} sallaa¥ Yogibear Aata tu mhNau nakÜ kaya Aagaa] bayaa Aaho. idvyaa kDuna ek idvaa Gao ro Divya Thursday, October 20, 2005 - 4:06 pm:      Life is full of problems... pNa sagaLo p`a^blaomsa sauTt naahItÊ KupjaNa duKavalaI jaatat pna %yaa vya>Ilaa %yaacaI jaaiNava sauwa hÜt naahI. AXaavaoLosa inagalao@T krNa AiNa ivaYaya jaast na taNaNa barca ÔayaVaca zrt. AaiNa ho %yaa samaÜrcyaa vya>I varhI AvalaMbauna Aaho. Punyanagarikar Thursday, October 20, 2005 - 4:07 pm:      manaalaa laavauna na GaoNaM Ôar AvaGaD AsatM. I agree . pNa manaalaa laavaUna GaovaUna Ô> AaPlyaalaaca ~asa hÜtÜ. hotUpurssar jar kÜNaI ~asa dot AsaolaÊ tr %yaaMcyaa kDuna caUk kbaUla krNyaacaI Apoxaa saÜDavaI. AXyaa vaoLI %yaaMcaM vaaga,NaM manaavar GaoNaM mhNajao %yaaMcaa hotU successful hÜ} doNaM. %yaat AaPlyaalaaca Ô> ~asa hÜtÜ. hÜ na Æ jar caukuna kÜNaa kDuna caUk JaalaI AsaolaÊ AaiNa manaalaa laagalaM AsaolaÊ tr var mhTlyaa p`maaNao baÜlaUna gaÜYTI clarify kravyaat. issue iktI maÜza ikvha CÜTa AahoÊ ³ikvha Aaplyaa manaalaa tÜ iktI maÜza ikvha lahana vaaTtÜ Aaho´Ê (ava$na %yaa vya>IcaM vaagaNaM forgive krta yaotMÊ maga BalaohI to forget krta na yao} dot. (at ek gaÜYTM gaRiht Qarto AahoÊ kI dÜnhI parties naa solutions kaZayacaM Aaho. kQaI kQaI some people find it easier to be nasty than to change their behaviour. maybe it gives them a sense of power, or feeling of superiority. I don't know . AXyaa vaoLI Ôar ~asa hÜtÜ. yaÜgaIÊ tuJao mau_o jarI caaMgalao Asalao trI Ôar idealistic vaaTlao. Yogibear Thursday, October 20, 2005 - 4:09 pm:      Lalu: AgadI barÜbarÊ bahutÝXaI vaoLa GaDlaolyaa p`saMgaa maQao cauk ‘daKvaNyaacaI’ca Bavanaa jaast Asalyaanao mauL mau_a baajaulaaca rhatÜ. Divya: Krca baGaa bar² kaya Aagaa] Aaho hI bayaa... ~D Ok, jokes apart... kmaItkmaI saMbaMQa ha ]paya Garatlyaa vyai>itM barÜbar saaQaNa iktpt yaÜgya Aaho²²² Balao tI maMDLI saasarcaI AsaÜt vaa maahorcaIÊ XaovaTI tI Aaplyaa jaIvhaL\yaacaI maMDLI Asatat naahI ka²²² AgadI saasar / maahor kXyaalaa pNa Aaplaoca maula ikMvaa navara / baayakÜ yaaMcyaa baabaitt sauwa Asao p`saMga GaDU Xaktat naa²²² saMvaad saaQaNa AvaGaD Asat (at XaMkaca naahIyao pNa mhNauna saMbaMQa kmaI krNa ha kahI ]paya naahI Jaalaa.... TaLI eka hatanao vaajat naahI ho sauwa tovhZca Kr Aaho pNa TaLI vaajavaNyaa krta AaQaI AapNa hat puZo kolaa tr kaya ibaGaDla² Punyanagarikar Thursday, October 20, 2005 - 4:13 pm:      yaÜgaIÊ varcyaa tuJyaa pÜsT XaI maI sahmat. laalaU tuJaI pÜsT vaacaayacaI rahuna gaolaI. tU mhNatosa tsaca baroca vaoLa hÜtM. ‘caUk’ daKvaUna doNyaacyaa A+ahasaat toZ vaaZt jaato. Manuswini Thursday, October 20, 2005 - 5:52 pm:      hmmm ... I just thought of sharing my ideas or approach. Basically I am little above sensitive when it comes to my CLOSE friends and relations. till now I never had such incidences from immediate members. I mean we openly talk. Here I am talking only about close relations (mama, kaka vagaire vagaire). But from relatives, I have many cousins, aunty uncle. My mom in a way suffered because she being sensitive. And most of the time opposite person was elder and EGOISTIC and immature(YES, ONLY IMMATURED people don’t try to see reason and understand other view or care damn). These people are not really into thinking that relations are to be nurtured not to be broken. It’s DIFFICULT. At times, as yogibear says, these people are so egoistic, even you want to talk, and they won’t talk. 2) For instance one of my aunt, is so egoistic, somewhat jealous too (so too much insecure) and hot -tempered, no one can have ever straight talk with her even she is wrong. For some reason when we kids were small, we kids had a fight. Fight was on small issue. Since aunt and mom were not around except one other uncle, my cousin told big story to aunt that was utterly lie. She made big issues in whole house and said all rubbish things. Mom tried to clarify things with her. But her ego was too high that she wasn’t ready to hear. Even uncle who was present there tried to convince her that nothing such happened between kids. anyways, bottom-line, we kids told mom , FORGET IT. Papa also tried to convince her even aunt is younger than him but being elder brother’s wife, he tried best. Eventually we broke all ties. it was painful for papa and mom. but who will tolerate their nonsense. It tool some years for my mom to forget the incidence. Because we would avoid all functions where aunt and uncle were there. on many occasions aunt would confirm if we are coming there and then she would condition other relatives not to invite us then she would come. Now tell me what can you do?? I learnt one thing try as much as you can. But don’t hurt yourself. 1) Opposite person is least bothered or least affected, ONLY person is you who is affected. 2) Most of the time such people are insecure, jealous and have complex. So try to tell your mind you can not do anything about it how much ever your best efforts.( I would keep on telling this to my mom 100 times a day when I saw her feeling sad) 3) if things go beyond , break the ties. What is point in having relationship that troubles you so much??? Manuswini Supermom Thursday, October 20, 2005 - 6:01 pm:      yogibear Xaaibdk laZaš krNyaacaa tuJaa ]paya malaa trI pTt naahI. karNa maI var mhTlyaap`maaNao tI vya>I jar mau_ama ~asa Vayalaa Asao vaagat Asaola naaÊ tr AXaa laZašcaI ina pyaa-yaanao saMbaMQa ibaGaDayacaIhI itcaI tyaarI Asatoca. %yaapoxaa kmaItkmaI baÜlaUna maI AagaIt tola TakNaM TaLto. iXavaaya AXaI laZaš maÜz\yaa maaNasaaMXaI hÜNao dudO-vaI ho kÜNaIhI maanyaca krola. %yaamauLo saNaavaarI ek~ yaoNaoÊ yaÜgya tÜ maana doNao pNa eka mayaa-dopilakDo saMbaMQa na vaaZvaNao hoca baro vaaTto. inadana maI vaDIlaQaaáyaaMcaa Apmaana kolaa naahI hI Baavanaa manaalaa XaaMtta doto. iXavaaya Garat samarp`saMga TaLlao jaatat. Arch Thursday, October 20, 2005 - 6:10 pm:      malaa vaaTt kuNaakDUna tumhI duKavalao gaolao Aahat (avar barca AvalaMbaUna Asat. p`%yaok Kopolaa ekca ]paya yaÜgya hÜt naahI. KUpXaa gaÜYTI naa%yaavar AvalaMbaUna Asatat. AapNa jar Asao Baaga kolao AaiNa kÜNaI [qao physhologist Asala ikMvaa psychotheorapist Asala tr naIT samajaa}na saaMgaU Xakola. ikMvaa kahI jaNaat maulaBaUtca naIT samajaa}na saaMgaNyaacaI klaa Asato. topNa [qao ]pyaÜgaI pDU XaktIla. duKavaNaarI vyai> KalaIlapOkI AsaU Xakto. 1. navara / baayakÜ 2. saasarkDcaI vaiDlaQaarI maaNasao 3. saasarkDcaI [tr maaNasao 4. maahorcaI laÜk. ³Kr tr ho jaast GaDt naahI karNa tumhalaa AavaDla naahI tr tumhI sarL saaMgaU Xakta.´ 5. ima~­maOi~NaI 6. office maQaIla sahvyavasaayaI 7. office maQaIla bosses Manuswini Thursday, October 20, 2005 - 6:12 pm:      supermom you are right. like i said opposite perosn is just waiting to break into fight or hell on spoiling relationship then you cant do anything. how long you will feel troubled to wait for a day to explain them? just say Hi , Hello and turn your back. I think so. After so many years, I happen to meet my aunt accidentaly in one family friends function here ,I was with my friends who knew she is my aunt. I did say hello to her. but she did not say Hi,hello and acted as if she did not hear in that group. I said to myself, fine. My curious (?) friends kept on asking, tujhi kaku bolali nahi kaa ga? (khaavchat prashna tyaachaa ..) me mhatel ghait hoti ga ti... honestly it took for me also quite some time to forget that she insulted my mom for no reason. I would hate her even mention of her name. but today I dont feel anything absolutely. she DOES NOT EXIST for me. may be it was easy as we stayed away from each other in Mumbai then and very much away here in USA too. so who cares! Manuswini Thursday, October 20, 2005 - 6:15 pm:      arch, good you did classification. my category was for my mother - number 3. Arch, funny thing pschychologist swatach ase vagataat.my aunt is doctor (pschychologist). Thanks Yogibear Thursday, October 20, 2005 - 7:08 pm:      Supermom: XaabdIk laZaš caa Aqa- [qao dusaáyaaMcaa Apmaana krNao Asaa mauLIca Gaotlaa jaa] nayao... XaabdIk laZaš mhNajao bauwI caatuyaa-nao saaQalaolaa saMvaad mhNaa hva tr jyaat samaÜrcaI vya>I CÜTI AsaÜ vaa maÜzIÊ %yaaMcaa Apmaana na krta tsaoca kuzlaohI ApXabd na vaaprta AaiNa itt@yaaca saMyamaanao kolaolaa saMvaad zrola. AXyaa saMvaadacaI garja ka BaasaNyaacao karNa mhNajao tI vya>I tumacyaa rÜjacyaa vyavaharatlaI Asato tovha nausat gaPp basauna AaiNa kimatkmaI baÜlauna tumhI tÜ p`XNa saÜDvau Xakt naahI. ha Aata eKaValaa jar tXaI XabdIk laZašca krta yaot nasaola ikMvaa jyaalaa AapNa mau_a pTvauna doNa mhNatÜ to jamat nasaola tr maa~ gaPp basaNa hoca rast zrola. XaabdIk laZaš maQao svatÁcaa saMyama baaLgaNao AitXaya kzINa Asato karNa jasao maI var namaud kolao Aaho kI Xabdanao Xabd vaaZuna tÜla jaaNyaacaI Xa@yata naakarta yaot naahI jyaanao naatIM maQao kTuta yao] Xakto AaiNa mhNaunaca to saÜPpo nasato...² Aqaa-t var Aaca- nao mhNalyaa p`maaNao samajaa]na saaMgaNao / mau_a pTvauNa doNao hI ek klaaca Aaho AaNaI qaÜD\yaa Ôar p`maNaat Aaplyaa savaa-MmaQao Asato. yaovhZ sagaL kÉna sauwa jar GaratlaI eKadI vyai> tumacyaa vaašTavarca Asaola ikMvaa ~asadayak zrt Asaola tr maa~ AaplyaaprInao itqao kanaaDÜLa trI kravaa kIMvaa satt laZašlaa sajja Asaavao... to mhNatatca naa ‘naiXabaatlao BaÜga kQaI caukt naahIt’ Asao samaJaavao... Limbutimbu Friday, October 21, 2005 - 3:00 am:      >>>>>>>> . %yaa vyai>caa svaaiBamaana mhNaa ikMvaa AhMkar mhNaa caukla ho kLt AsaUnahI maaÔI maagaayalaa ikMvaa nausat caukla mhNaayalaa tyaar nasatÜ...... maI varcyaa baakIcyaa pÜsT\sa vaoLoABaavaI vaacau XaklaÜ naahI hoÊ trIhI pihlyaa pÜsT vaÉna jao t%kaL saucala to Asa kI Aha p`karcaI vaoL GarIdarI maaJyaavar yaoto tovha maaJyaa manaat Ajauna ek ivacaar hahI trLt AsatÜ kI samaÜrcyaa kDuna %yaana caukla mhNaava iknvaa maafI maagaavaI AXaI Apoxaa jaovha maI QartÜ tovha maI svatÁca maaJyaa Ahnkar svaaiBamaana iknvaa duraiBamaanaalaa kurvaaiLt naahInaaÆ malaa kaLjaI GyaavaIca laagato kI kovaL vaOcaairk baÝiwk patLIvar var AXaI caUk punha hÜvau nayao mhNaunaca maI caukIcyaa kbaulaIcaI Apoxaa krtÜ ho naa² %yaa kbaulaIcyaa Apoxaot jara jarI malaa sauKdtocaI jaaiNava hÜvau laagalyaasa maI t%kaL saavaQa banatÜ kI kuzo maIca maaJaa Ahnkar jaÜpasau nayao² yaavar barca ilaihta yao[laÊ vaoLoABaavaI yaovaZca² caukIcaI kbaulaI idlaI naahI tr kaya va ka krayacao ha vyai>saapoxaÊ naato saapoxaÊ AiQakarxao~saapoxa ivaYaya Asalyaanao p`%yaok ]dahrNaat %yaacao rnga Ép badlaolaÊ maa~ t%va var saaingatlyaap`maanao ekca rahIla. Bhagya Friday, October 21, 2005 - 3:16 am:      Aaca-Ê ksalaa sahI baIbaI sau$ kolaasa ga² maaJao recently vaDIla vaarlaoÊ tovha maJyaa javaL javaL Garatca rahNaayaa- vya>Inao malaa caukUnaih eka XabdanaohI ivacaarlao naahIÊ [tkoca navho tr idvasaBar tI vya>I hasya ivanaÜd krt hÜtIÊ p`saMgaacao tartmya na zovata. AaNaI %yaa vyai>cyaa DÜL\yaatlao AasaU maI iktIvaoLa pusalaot.... KrocaÊ maI Ôarca duKavaila gaolao karNa [t@yaa du$na malaa Baartat jaaNaohI Xa@ya navhto... AaNaI maI %yaa vyai>XaI kahI idvasa baÜlaNao Taklao... AjaUnhI maaJyaa manaat to Aaho. Shsh Friday, October 21, 2005 - 3:37 am:      gaaya jaXaI rvaMqa krtoÊ tsaa tumhI laÜk ivaYayaacaa caavauna caavauna caÜqaa krta. kidding ;-) ;-) Shsh Friday, October 21, 2005 - 3:46 am:      to add some seriousness to what i said abt "chewing the topic" or "chewing relations" is that, i would take everything... yes, almost everything "on its face value" That way, no one gets hurt.. If you know what i mean.. Bhagya Friday, October 21, 2005 - 4:18 am:      shsh tuJao AjaUna kÜNaI mana duKvalaolao idsat naahI....malaa Aaca- cao mhNaNao 100 % pTto...yaa gaÜYTI ivasarayalaa saÜPyaa nasatat.... face value etc is better said than understood. Peshawa Friday, October 21, 2005 - 5:59 am:      %yaa vya>Icao tumacyaaXaI kXaa p`karcao naatosaMbaMQa Aahot AaNaI iktpt level of understanding Aaho (avar ]<ar AvalaMbaUna Aaho. kimat kmaI interaction ha Ô> baahorcyaa vya>I barÜbar Xa@ya Aaho... Garat infact during miunderstanding fights open up as many channels of communication as possible. reaching to that person or allowing his understanding of the matter to you is utmost imp.. so in my best understanding dont cut off conversation but as i have said later in this post wait till you can make a good conversation jar GaratIlaca vyai> 24/7 types Asaola tr deal krNao AvaGaD Asato. AaNaI AXaavaoLosa kaya options (extreme cases) Aahot (a varca sagaLo AvalaMbaUna Asato. pna maaJyaa mato kahI thumb rules Aahot jyaacaa vaOyai>k ]pyaÜga Jaalaa Aaho to share krtÜ. 1. make sure jaoMvha GaTnaa Gadt Asaola toMvha tumhI %yaavarcaI instantanious reaction lapvat naahI Aaht. although controlling intensity of that reaction according to the nature of the other person is best 2. vya>I jar Kupca javaLcaI Asaola tr AVOID giving instantanious reaction (utmost control) and LISTEN to him/her. if this u cant do then without hurting (although he/she might) the other person physically or in words fight it out there and then... some don'ts are *) never give judgements *)never hit him/her where u know it hurts the most... *) No laaMDgaa Aalaa type threats 3. Allow some time(days/weeks/months)lapse. Especially take out time for yourself. get out of the context of that incident and return when you think you can handle it regardless what other person is feeling during that time. Infact make it clear you need your time. 4. making up is always difficult [qao maa~ ego na baLgata discuss kravao. caar pavalao maagao gyaayacaI tyaarI AsaavaI maI tr mhNaona caar pavalao maagao Gao]naca sauÉvaat kravaI. maa~ [qao arguments TaLavaIt. AaNaI jar punha ho sagaLo yao ro maaJyaa hÜt Asaola tr it is indication kii this is the line that both persons have to draw between their relationship (taboo subject) 5. xamaa krNao or accepting behavior and move on bayaa-ca vaoLosa kovaL samaÜrcaI vya>I Aaplyaa Aapoxao p`maaNao naahI vaagalaI mhNaUna ~asa hÜtÜ (alaa AaplaI rigidity karNaI Baut Asato know thyself well mhNajao lines d`va krNao saÜpo jaato Limbutimbu Friday, October 21, 2005 - 7:57 am:      >>>>> on its face value I agree! p`%yaok GaTnaocao yaÜgya maulyamaapnaÊ kÜNatohI pUva-ga`h na zovata kolao tr p`itiËyaolaa sauTsauTIt pNaa yaotÜÊ ho Kupca AvaGaD ho pNa yaÜgya sau~ hoca kI GaTnaocao yaÜgya maulyamaapna kra² baáyaaca vaoLa xaullak GaTnaolaa mah%va idlao gaolyaanao Ajauna GaÜDcaUka hÜvau Xaktat va mah%vaacyaa GaTnaa najaroAaD hÜvau Xaktat² far ikcakT ivaYaya ho ha jar ]dahrNa dovauna saangaayacao Jaalao tr² maa~ ek Kro kI Shsh nao mhNalyaap`maaNao face value consider kÉ laagalaÜ tr Aaplyaa Xaa^T- Tompr ( Asalyaasa Aqaa-tca ) var Kupca AaLa basatÜ ha fayada Kup ho² poXavaaÊ tuJaI pÜsT qaÜDIqaÜDI samajatI ho mhNajaoca samajaayalaa AvaGaD jaatI ho² Bee Friday, October 21, 2005 - 9:07 am:      ijatkI AaplaI ‘]majaNyaacaI’ takd maÜzIÊ ittko Aaplao ‘BaMgaNao’ AiQak... ho vaa@ya maaJao naahI. maoGanaa pozoMcao Aaho. jyaa vya>IMkDUna malaa KUp [jaa pÜcatat AaiNa %yaaMnaa %yaacaI jaaiNava doKIla nasato toMvha malaa ho vaa@ya vaarMvaar Aazvato. vaacaayacao Asaola tr [qao vaacaa - /hitguj/messages/34/45258.html?1109564768 Arch Friday, October 21, 2005 - 3:57 pm:      barIca mat vaacaUna kLla kahItrI nai@kca iXakNyaasaarK Aaho. laÜk badlaU Xakt naahIt mhNaUna AapNaca badlala paihjao. pNa kaya hÜt malaa svatÁca caukla kI caukla mhNaayacaI savaya Aaho AaiNa kÜNaI malaa duKvala AaiNa naMtr %yaacyaa laxaat Aala ikMvaa laxaat AaNaUna idla AaiNa tI vyai> caukla mhNaalaI ikMvaa maaJaa tsaa hotU navhta Asa jarI mhNaalaI kI maaJaa raga inaGaUna jaatÜ. mhNajao maaJa qaÜD@yaat samaaQaana hÜt. AaiNa javaLcyaa vyai>laa ho maaiht AsaUnahI tI vyai> tXaI vaagalaI naahI tr manaalaa ~asa hÜt rhatÜ. XaovaTI kaya kÜNaakDUna Apoxaa krNaM saÜDUna Vayaca hoca Kr.

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