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Discussion karanaryanmadhe kuni live in karanare ahet ka? ka sagale havet tir marat ahet?
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Sakharam Binder natak vachale / pahile ka?
tyat Sakharam ekek 'takaleli' bai anato ani tichya barobar live in karto. tyala ek Champa bhetate ani tychyave power dakhavu lagate. Sakharam dusari 'Laxmi' mhanun ek bai live in la anto. ti upas tapas vali asate. Sakharam Champacha murder karaot o, Laxmi tyala Dead body purayala help karate. At end Sakharam Laxmichya soshik panamule changalya margala lagato. ashi gost ahe.
Of course, Live in hi High Class (so called) chi gost ahe tyamule Sakharamche example kunala avadat nahi. Lower class madhe Adivasi madhe he nave nahi (Smoking women pramanech).
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Dharmadhkari,
Omlettee changale zalay sangayacha swatah and ghalava lagat nahi. :o)
Correct me if I'm wrong, Live-In cha uddesh jya vyaktibarobar live-in karnaar aahot tichyabarobar ayushya ghalavu shakato ka (not necessarily getting married) he chachapadanyacha aahe.
Sakharam cha asa uddesh hota asa natak vachatana aadhalat nahi. Kamalakar Toranyachya scriptvarunhi asa kahi vatat nahi. Tithe fakt s e x cha vichaar kela gela hota ase bhasate. Tyala kharokhar live-in mhanta yeil ka ?
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ataparyantchya discussionsmadhye kahi wela asa ullekh zala ahe, ki lagnanantar ekmekana jara jastach gruhit dharala jata, tyamule problems hotat. he koni thode elaborate karel ka?
karan mala tari asa watat, ki "being able to take each other for granted" ha kontyahi natyatala ek sundar bhag asato. apan ashach lokana gruhit dharto, jyanchya barobarchya relationsmadhye aplyala mutual love ani trust yanchi khatri asate. ani tyamule tya hakkane apan kahi goshti gruhit dharlya tari tya natyanmadhye gairsamaj, vad nirman hot nahit, tya sarvanchya palikade te nate gelele asate. mala watate he kontyahi natyat shakya ahe, navra bayko kay kina live in partners kay, friends, parents kuthehi.
tyamule, lagnantar taken from granted ne problems hotat hya muddyacha, ani tya magachya contextcha mala purna akalan hot nahi.
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malaa ek gaÜYT [qao jaaNavalaIÊ ha BB AaiNa (asaarKo [trhI jasao In laws tyache ani tiche Ê Premat vyavahar asava ka . . (atuna ekca jaaNavato kI AapNa sagaLoca sauiK vaOvaahIk ijavanaacaa maaga- XaÜQat AahÜt. kuNaalaa saMsÌitÊ %yaagaÊ jabaabadaáyaaÊ naatI mah%vaaica vaaTtatÊ tr kÜNaalaa vya>IsvaatM~\ya mah%vaacao vaaTto. pNa kuNaacaIhI TÜkaica Bauimaka naahIyao ho caaMgala Aaho.
malaa vaaTt jar " %yaa dÜGaaMnaI " ekmaokaMnaa samajauna Gaotla tr barcasao problem sauTtIla. AaiNa [qaoca tr KrI maoK Aaho. karNa Asa mhNatatÊ kI AayauYya ek~ kaZla trI kÜiNa kuNaalaa vyavasqaIt samajaolaca (aica Kai~ naahI. maga ha ..problem saÜDvaayacaa ksaaÆ
kuzlahI naat iTkvaNyaacaa malaa saapDlaolaa maaga- maI [qao ilaiht Aaho. maaJa AjaUna lagna Jaala nasala trI jao maI [tr naa%yaaMcyaa baabaitt qaÜD Ôar AvalaMbalao to jar saMpuNa-pNao Aaplyaa ijavanasaaiqadaracyaa baabaitt AvalaMbalao tr to naat Agaid Cana iTkola AaiNa sauKacaoih hÜlaÊ baGaa tumhalaa pTt ka
tIna gaÜYTI maI AvalaMbalyaa
1. commitement : malaa ho naat AayauYyaaBar iTkavayaca Aaho ih ..commitement Asaayalaa hvaI. jar (aica Kai~ nasaola tr %yaa naa%yaa maQyao javaiLk na AaNaNa ho yaÜgya. qaÜDa vaoL Va svatÁlaa .. samaÜrcyaa vya>Ilaa samajaNyaasaazI.
2 Tust : samaÜrcyaa vya>Ivar ivaXvaasa daKvaa. malaa jaaNavalao kI ivaXvaasaÊ Aadr (a AXaa gaÜiYT Aahot kI jyaa AapNa dusaáyaalaa do] tovaZ\yaaca Aaplyaalaa imaLtat.
3. communication: ih savaa-t ma*%vaaica gaÜYT Aaho. jar dÜGaaMmaQyao sausaMvaad Asaola tr baroca ..problems sauÉ hÜNyaa AaiQaca TaLta yaotIla. Xbd ho KUp maÜz As~ Aaho ih gaÜYT [qao vaogaL saaMgaayalaa nakÜÊ toMvha japUna.
AsaÜ Barpur ivaYyaaMtr JaalaoÊ %yaa ba_la xamasva. pNa (a tIna gaÜiYT qaÜD\yaaÔar p`maNaat AvalaMbalyaanao maI trI maaJao javaLcao naatovaak AaiNa ima~ iTkvauna Aaho.
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Omlettee changale zalay sangayacha swatah and ghalava lagat nahi <<<< *LOL* Asami.
moreover, marriages can always end in divorce...
<<< Ajit tumhala nakki kay sangayachay ? arthatach, lagna jhala asel tarach divorce hoil na...tumhala asa mhanayachay ka ki live in mule divorce che praman kami hoil...tase jar tumhala mhanayache asel tar majhya mate te hasyaspad aahe. he mhanaje 'kadhitari maraN yenar mhanun janmach na hou denyasarakhe jhale..'
moreover, live in madhye committment nasate asa mulich nahi pan committment kelich tar palanyache bandhan pan nasate. var konitari mhanale aahe tya pramane, nahi patala tar bagha dusara live in...te pan nahi jamala tar tisara...he kuthe sampanar ? yavar aata asa konitari mhanel ki jar participating vyakti samajutdar asel, tichi committment asel tar ase honar nahi. mag tya case madhye, live in kashala pahije ? samajutdar vyakti lagna karunahi titakyach samajutdarpanane rahu shakate.nahi ka ? mag live in cha khas asa advantage kuthe aala ? ithe UK madhye he praman khup aadhalate, pan failure is considerably more too.
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Milindaa - nahi, mala asa mhanaycha navta. majhya post madhe i was addressing the notion that kids raised in LIRs will not grow up to be 'good' citizens - something i don't agree with. mala tujha point kallay, pan that was not what i was alluding. thanks for clarifying that.
re: your second paragraph -- Jamla nahi tar dusra tisra is applicable to marriages as well. So, LIR cha advantage asa ki its easier to start over since there is no social contract to annul. Disadvantage asa ki social approval nasta etc.
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kaay gammat aahe na, Dr. Ashutosh yeun fakt 2 shabda lihun gela ani apan sagle tya 2 shabdan varti yevdhi charcha keli ani ata me suddha tyavarti bhaashan lihit aahe :o) mala suddha ajun kaahi BBs ughadun tyat "lagna", "divorce", "abortion", "naukari", "raajinaama" asle sphotik shabd lihun pahaiche aahe ki kaay hote ??? ;)
mala ase vaatate ki society pressure baddal kunich bolat naahiye, ullekh suddha karat naahiye. tumhi laakh mhanat asal ki live-in karnaare doghe jar committed astil tar relationship successful hoel. aare pan hya goshti nantar yetaat .. aadhi yete ti sakali sakali tumhi kaama varti jaila nighalya nantar loka jya najareni tumchya kade baghtil hyacha vichar kara. office madhye kuni kaahi bolnaar naahi pan kadhi kuni kaahi bolale tar ? ani asankhya loka comments pass kartil, tyanchi tonda kaay dabnaar aahat ka ? ani kadhi kuthe lagna-kaaryala bolavle tar jevdhya chhati-thok pane live-in karat aahat tevdhyach chhati-thok pan tumchya partner/spouse la tya function la gheun jaal ka ? ani tithe kuni kaahi vicharle, bolale tar kaay tyala live-in che tatvadnyan paajnaar ahat ka tamasha karal ? tamasha tumchach hoel na ? kadhi ekhadi office chi social party asel ani tithe pratyekjan aaplya spouse la gheun alya nantar tumhi kaay introduction denaar ? ani tumhala ase vaatate ka ki pahilya meet madhye kuni vishwas thevel mhanun ? thik aahe, live-in karnaare mhantil 'amhala jagachi parva naahi' .. thik aahe, maanya kele te pan. mug, hya varti tumhi asa upaay kaadhal ki kuthe barobar jaiche naahi kivva attend karaiche naahi .. result kaay, tumhi swatala society paasun vegle karun ghet aahat .. finally, tumhala society ni baaher kaadhle kaay kivva tumhi society madhun ang kaadhun ghetle kaay, ekach na ???
ani ajun deshala savay hoichi aahe hya saglya goshtinchi. maanya aahe Mumbai/Pune madhye astil ase couples, pan kiti ? 1% tari ??? naahi na .. mhanjech hya madhye kaahitari chuk aahe. naahitar saglyanich ase kele aste ki .. ka, baaki loka avichari aahet mhanun karat naahi ase mhanaiche aahe ? ani ekda divorce jhala ki parat lagna karaila dokyala tras hoto tar live-in partner sodun alya nantar tumhi jar vichar kela lagnacha tar kuni haad tari ghaalel ka ??? ani var konitari lihile aahe, nahi patala tar bagha dusara live in...te pan nahi jamala tar tisara... mug vichar kara, what type of partners will u end with ? asech astil sagle, dar 2-3 varshani partner badalnaare .. ani mug kunich kunala seriously ghenaar naahi ani kadhich compromise karnaar naahit .. kaaran tyancha thumb rule haach asel na .. naahi patle, dile sodun .. whoz next ???
ani Ajjuka ni lihile aahe na ki "I dont find anything wrong in this concept. I could not take that step for some personal reasons but me and my fiance are totally in agreement with this concept." .. Ajjuka, tumha doghana jar vaatat hote ki tumhi karat aahat te agdi barobar aahe tar ka naahi kele tase ? social pressure la bali padlaach na ? social pressure break kelya nantar baaki sagle committement, bringing up kids etc etc yetaat.
huh, jar ata tumhi mhanat asal ki 'somebody has to break the ice' .. then, go ahead .. be my guest and face the consequences (good or bad) !!!
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Samrya: ekdaam sahi lihile aahes :o) (tujhe posting vachtaana ekhaada hindu parishadetla karyakarta Sabhe-sthaani ubha rahun tavatavane dusrya pakshaala tyanchya bejababdaar wa swatahapurtya soyi karnya virudha prati-prashna kartoy aase vatle)
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sahich...ata kasa charcha rangaat ali ahe asa vatatay...:)
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Asami,
omlet cha vinod changla hota.
kahi mudde:
Sakharam Binder chya goshticha ••• shi sambandh nahi.
Sakharam Binder Vijay Tendulkarani lihile ani Kamalakar Sarang ni direct kele.
Actors: Nilu Phule, Lalan Sarang.
Sakharam ani tyane analeli bai doghe eka gharat live in karatat. Sakharam he sagale Compatibility test mhanun n karata Direct solution of the problem mhanun karato.
tumchy mhanyapramane live in he 'try before buy' ase ahe, mala vatate the 'try try and bye bye' ase asave. Only these high class people don't say that.
Milinda,
>moreover, live in madhye committment nasate asa >mulich nahi pan committment kelich tar palanyache >bandhan pan nasate.
'palanya'che bandhan nasate he barobar ahe.
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Yogi ... aare baapre .. yevdhe kaahi lihu nakos naahitar majhya sabhet dagad-fek hoel ;)
Savyasachi .. charcha rangaat naahi, adhi hya point cha vichar kela tar baaki charcha karnyat artha aahe .. naahitar saglyanach maahiti aahe ki 'live-in' mhanje kaay :o)
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Dharmadhikari
To mi fakt vinod mhanun lihila navta. Tumhi je mhanalat ki ethe lihinaare koni live in chya babatimadhe anubhavi ahet ki havet golya marat aahet tyacha to reply hota. Ekhadya goshtiwar vichar karayala ti anubhvavich lagte ase nahi asa tyacha matitarth hotaa.
Sakharam baddal...
Toranyani te direct kele ani tyachi script lihinyat tyanchya sahbhaag hota ase tyanchya Binderche Divas madhe lihilyache adhalate.
Mala sangayache he hote ki Sakharam ne kuthehi Compatibility test, Live in, lagnsambandh, commitement asha saglya ani kuthalyahi vicharancha vichaar na karta teela gharat aanun thevato. Tyamule hya BB shi tya udaharanacha sambandh aprastut aahe.
>>tumchy mhanyapramane live in he 'try before buy' ase ahe, mala vatate the 'try try and bye bye' ase asave. Only these high class people don't say that.
He maze mhanane nahi. Me live-in define karayachya praytnat nahi. Me fakt LiveIn che intrinsic fayade asa var koni je mhanale hote tyana he sangayacha khatatop karat aahe ki he live in che fayde nasun he tyatil mansanchya attitudeche fayde aahet.
Mala vatate jenva tumhi 'try try and bye bye' ashi vidhane karta tenva tumhi tyache spashitikaran dile tar tyawar kahi charcha hou shakel.
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very perfect Comparison between Live In and Marriage
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jyana varil link la problem yet aahe tyanchya sathi : http://femina.indiatimes.com/ArticleShow.asp?ArticleID=1260154631
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Live-in var udbodhak charcha chalali ahe. Dnyanat thodi bhar padel asha links yethe det ahe:
1.Live-in relationships: A convenient bargain- Hindustantimes.com:
http://167.216.192.98/infotainment/persona/relationship/liveinrelationships.shtml
2.some don'ts in a live-in relationship - Hindustantimes.com:
http://167.216.192.98/infotainment/persona/relationship/liveinrelationships1.shtml
3.Live-in relationships more prone to violence:
http://www.s-t.com/projects/DomVio/livein.HTML
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Maze mhanane thodkyat mandto:
Aapan vaada aani chaal sanskruti kadun flat sanskrutikade aalo. Ekatra kutumb paddhati kadun vibhakta kutumb paddhatikade aalo. Arthat aapan swatantra kutumb already zaalo aahot. Aata live-in chya anvaye swatantra kutumbache stambha, mhanaje stree aani purush, he adhik vaiyyaktik swatantryakade jaau pahat aahet.
Mee live-in cha puraskarta hi naahi aani virodhak hi naahi. Mee tyachya kade nippakshapati pane paahu ichchito.
Kalanusar samaj badalat rahato aani niti-anitichya kalpana hi badalat jaatat. (Kombade zaklyane surya ugavayacha rahat naahi). Live-in hi vastusthiti aahe. Samaaj (mhanaje tumhi aamhich naa?)sweekaril tar he (bhaarataat) tikun raahil anyatha naahise hoil. So, wait and watch.
Kunihi kaahihi mhatale tari Live-in he ajun tari 'lagnala paryay' ya level la aaley aahe ase mee tari maanat naahi. Ekmekaanchi poorna olakh karun lagna paryant janyacha athava vibhakta honyacha maarg ashich live-in chi olakh aahe.
Ethe mulancha mudda khoopach mahatvacha aahe. Kayadetadnya joint property/joint accounts ooghdu naka ase salle live-in valyanna det aahet. Mule mhanaje joint property/account ch navhe ka?
Ajjuka ne live-in che khoop chhan samarthan kele aahe. Pan mulaancha mudda tine hi talala aahe (paha 11 Mar: "ani mulancha mudda ha khup nanataracha aahe. lagnamadhe mule hi aajatari samajik apariharyata aahe. Live In madhe nahi. ani pratyekala mule havich astat ase nahi. Live In madhe janmalelya mulanche kay ha prashan kharach khup subjective aahe.")
Live-in madhlya sambandhitanche (stree, purush aani mule) hitarakshan hoil ase kayade zalyashivay live-in la bharatat bhavitavya kathheen aahe.
Barech lamble bare.
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Kusumagrajanchi ek sunder kavita aathavali. Live-in shi tyacha sambandh nasala tari live-in chya nimittane hi kavita sagalyanna aikavavishi vatate:
"natyas naav apulya deuu nakos kaahi,
saryach chandaNyanchi jagataas jaaN naahi,
vyavahaar kovidancha hoil rosh hovo,
vyakhyetunich tyanchi pradnya vahaat jaai."
Kiti achuk basate naahi hi kavita ethe!
Ajjuka ne jya hiririne ticha mudda mandala aahe tyache kharech kautuk karavese vaTate!
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Konitari majhya sathi hi kavita english madhe transliterate karu shakel ka? Much appreciated!
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Thanks Anil, but my browser may be acting up - square blocks appear in place of certain characters making it difficult to read. And it doesn't help that my marathi vocabulary isn't good either. :)
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thanks Anil! mulancha mudda talanyacha hetu nahi pan mazya mate jevha apan hi goshta ek realtion mhanun discuss karato aahot tevha suravatiche prashna kinwa suravatiche +'s and -'s olandun mul ya vishayakade jane yoyga nave ase mala vatate. tyamule at the start of this relationship mule ha mudda nahi mahatvacha tharat ani mi ashi anek jodapi pahyli aahet jyanna mool hi aparihary goshta aahe ase vatatach nahi as..
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are va!
mhanje baki jodpi jyana yogy veli mule hotat, tyana te apariharya vatate mhanun hotat ke tyana havi mhanun hotat? ki kahi kalat nahi mhanun hotat?
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actually, kalt'a ('know' in the biblical sense) mhanun mule hotat :) enjoy the weekend
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Anil
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Aijat kusaumaaga`jaaMcyaa varIla kivatocaa ]rlaolaa Baaga yaoqao dot Aaho
naa talaraga yaaMcyaa baMQaat baaMQalaolaa
svarmaoGa maMjauLacaa barsao idXaaMt dahI
gaavaatlyaa idvyaaMnaa pqa tÜ ksaa pusaavaa
maMiJalakI jayaacaI taraMgaNaat rahI.
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Nivant
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kunee LIR che long-term parinaam kaay hotil
hyavar charcha keli nahiye farashi yethe.
Ekatra kutumb paddhatee baddal kahi vichar
mandalele disatat. Pan ha BB "LIR" vs "lagna" asa ahe. Hallee apan pahato ki
barech jan lagnanantar aai-baba asun hi ekach gavat dusarya gharaat rahatat. (karane kahihi asot). Pan vadildharya vyakti ahet va tyanche margadarshan milanar ahe ha dilasaa tyat asato. LIR madhye he sambhavate ka?
Mala vatate ki objectively vichar karatana, apan itar gostivar charcha talayala havee (e.g. ekatra kutumb kinva sanskar). He vishay mahatwache ahet, nahi ase nahi. Pan, fair comparison have ase vatate.
My two cents :-)
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live in valyani
sleep over kele ka?( ka dead out zale? )
3 days kuni lihit nahi
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Anil
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Dharmadhikari: MalA tar live-in madhye mul nasaNe hi aparihAryatA vaTate.MhaNunach kadachit bahutek live-in joDapi without child asatil.
Kasalich bandhane nakot, mag mul mhaNaje tar janmabharache bandhan! JoDidar nakosa zAlA ki ex-friend / ex-husband / ex-wife mhaNun fekun detA yeto, mul ex-child mhaNun hAt var karatA yet nahIt! SudnyAs adhik sAngaNe nalage!
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Bhalya
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Aro ha Da^. AaXautÜXa kuzo gaayaba Jaalaa Aaho Æ
ho puNaorI AXaa cacao-ca ipllau saÜDuna gaayaba ksao hÜtat hoca kLt naahI..
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Shripalk
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Live-in-Companion is not very common in India
but it existed in some form or the other. The
current examples are quotable from filmi society, where such opportunities and temptations are quite large. V. Shantaram had
one married wife and then had two actresses with him. Dharmendra has Hema Malini. Kamal Hasan had one dancer wife and then had Sarika
living-in with him. She married him after giving birth to one daughter! Neena Gupta has a child from Viv Richards. Basically those who don't care for what others will talk and have some economic independence, they can go for such relations. In Germany man and woman stay together for some years and then they marry, may be after testing each others compatibility. Marriage concept has been introduced by humans for sociatal convenince and smooth functioning, and not created by God. So various methods get evolved and continue.
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Rangya
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are baba kamal - sarika , dharpa-hema kahi sadashiv madhe rahaat nahit ... tyanna sugle maaf re baba ...
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Ajjuka
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shripalk,
ashi paddhat aapalyakade aadivasi jamatinmadhehi aahe. ekatra 3 pidhyanchi lagne lagalyachi batami nukatich sakal madhe vachali hoti. there is notihn wrong in it.
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Mruda
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Hi....All
Mi nawin join hou icchite tumchya groupla. Mi baryach comments wachalya. Live-in baddal barich charcha disatey. Agadi suruwatila "Asamichi" ji comment ahe ti mala patatey. Sharira kherij Manasik garaj jasta mahatwachi ahe. Even tyathi 90 % bhag manasik asato. Pan aapale sanskar far ghatta asatat. So asa dhirya "Dharmadhikarini " wicharlay tya pramane aapan karana awaghad ahe. Hyatala madhala marga shodhyala haway. Jene karun sanskar palata yetil pan nit "Olakahi" hoil...kay watata?
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Nitesham
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It is always better than burning wife-daughter i law for dowry. How many inncoent girls has been burnt alive just because of "sanskar" & "Dilya ghari sukhi raha".I just hate to be together for sake of society & the "faltoo" attitude that parents of girl possess. I hv said to my sister dt u hv been married to become more happy than here. Whenever u feel dt u just can't contine to sustain any sort of torture,u just come back. I am the brother who will support u till end of my life.
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Way to go Nitesh!
If Sanskars stand in the way of happiness- break them like a rotten pumpkin!
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