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Sweety
Tuesday, September 27, 2005 - 4:17 pm:   Edit Post Delete Post Print Post  Link to this message

haa majha agdi jiwhalyacha vishay...karan me ahe yaa jawabdari madhe
saglikadun kase vichar manamadhe bharun yetat.baba lawkar gelyamule nokari keli..bahiniche lagna kele.bhau lahan... ata majhe lagna jhale ahe...ani me lagan adhi ek flat ghetla tyachi jawabdari mhanje tyache hafte me dete...means job karne garjeche...any of my sisters here like me share ur management related to this topic...

Moodi
Tuesday, September 27, 2005 - 4:36 pm:   Edit Post Delete Post Print Post  Link to this message

maaJyaa mato tr lagna hÜvauna maulagaI pr@yaa GarI gaolaI yaacaa Aqa- itcaI jabaadarI lagaoca saMplaI Asaa AjaIbaat naahI. ivadark pirisqatImauLo maulagaI AsaÜ iknvaa maulagaa (a dÜGaanaahI Aaplayaa kuTuMbaacaI kaLjaI hI GyaavaIca laagato.

maulaalaa iXakvaNyaat jasaa %yaacyaa Aaš vaDIlaanaa Kca- yaotÜ tsaa maulaIcyaa Aaš vaDIlaanaa hI yaotÜcaÊ navho ikMbahunaa jaastca Krca yaotÜ. karNa saasarcao laÜk ho iktIhI sauQaarIt matacao ka Asaonaa Ana %yaanaI huMDa na Gaovauna lagna kolaolao Asalao trI maulaIcao iXaxaNaÊ lagnaat dÜnhIkDcao jaovaNa Ê daiganaoÊ saaD\yaa Ana Anaok AXaa gaÜYTI Aahot kI maulaIcyaa Aaš vaDIlaaMcaI ksaÜTI laagato.

Ana samajaa maulaInao lagnaa AaQaI naÜkrI kolaolaI nasaola Ana lagnaanaMtr itlaa tI laagalaI trI Aaplayaa pOXaatuna tI Aaplyaa BaavaMDanaa hvao to Gaovauna dovau XaktoÊ navaáyaakDo hat psarayacaI vaoL yaot naahI. Ana s~Inao Aaplyaa payaavar ]Bao Asalaolao kovhahI ]<amaca.

Aqaa-t navaáyaacyaa garjaaMmaQyao hI hatBaar laavaavaa. mhNajao qaÜDo pOsao bacatIt zovaavao. karNa navaáyaacyaa pgaaratuna Garacao hPtoÊrÜjacaI Ana maihnyaacaI GarKcaa-caI ibalaoÊmaulaaMcao Kca-Ê AajaarpNaasaazI Acaanak ]d\BavaNaara Kca- yaat AaplaahI vaaTa jaÉr Asau Vavaa.

Gar dÜGaaMcaoca navho tr maahor Ana saasarcyaa AXaa dÜnhI laÜkaMcao Aaho Asao samajauna naIT ]paya kolao tr ho AaqaI-k p`Xna sauTu Xaktat Ana maga kurbaurI Ana BaaMDNao hÜt naahIt.

best luck tulaa .

Sayonara
Tuesday, September 27, 2005 - 10:53 pm:   Edit Post Delete Post Print Post  Link to this message

jaÉr kravaI maahorI madt. XaovaTI maulaIcyaa Aaš - vaiDlaaMnaIhI itlaa iXakvalaolaM AsatMca kI. pNa (a gaÜYTI lagnaaAaQaI hÜNaaáyaa navaáyaaXaI baÜlaUna %yaacao mathI jaaNaUna Gyaavao mhNajao puZo hÜNaaro vaad TLtIla AaiNa Aqaa-tca tÜ samajaUtdar Asaola tr svatÁhI pTvaUna Gaošla AaiNa GarcyaaMnaahI pTvaUna došla.

Manuswini
Tuesday, September 27, 2005 - 11:40 pm:   Edit Post Delete Post Print Post  Link to this message

Sayonara,

What makes me more uncomfortbale that we(girls) have to really discuss this and know "husband's wish or opinion" whether we can or we should help or not? OR we would helping our own parents after marriage?.


But I guess our society system makes as an discussion issue if a girl after marrigae wants to help her own parents ? why?

would husband discuss this if he should or he wants to continue helping his parents? NO.. i dont think?

So I guess girls this has to be taken with pinch of salt.:-)

Manuswini
Tuesday, September 27, 2005 - 11:43 pm:   Edit Post Delete Post Print Post  Link to this message

I feel as long as girl is doing from her expenses and just "informs" to husband if required then and girl involved is not expecting her husband to extend any help for his wife's relatives or family in normal scenario then this need for discussion should not be there out of fear that there would be arguments. It is girls decision.



Sayonara
Wednesday, September 28, 2005 - 12:01 am:   Edit Post Delete Post Print Post  Link to this message

manaisvanaIÊ malaa pTtMya tulaa kaya mhNaayacaMya to. pNa jar vaogaLM / ek~ rhat Asaala tr navaáyaanaohI discuss kravaM AsaM malaa vaaTtM AaiNa maaJaI ApoxaahI Asaola tXaIca. karNa jar maI kmavat Asaona tr maaJyaa pOXaavar jaast h@k ha maaJaaca Asaola kI naahIÆ pNa balance hI maoToMna kravaa. var maUDI mhNaalaI %yaap`maaNao.

Samai
Wednesday, September 28, 2005 - 6:02 am:   Edit Post Delete Post Print Post  Link to this message

madt (a Xabdalaa maaJaa puNa- inaYaoQa Aaho
jar madt ha Xabd samap-k Asaola tr jaXaI maahorI kolaolaI madt tXaIca saasarI kolaoilahI madtca zravaI. pNa Asa nasat. %yaamauLo madt (a Xabdalaa maaJaa inaYaoQa Aaho

maahorcaI jabaabadarI maulaInao saasacyaa- [tkIca ]calalaI pahIjao. Aqaa-t tXaI garja Asaola tr.

navaáyacyaa AaiNa Aaplyaa imaLktIcaa jamaaKca- maaMDUna yaÜgya %yaa p`maaNaat maahorcaI jabaabadarI ]calaNa ho maulaIca kt-vyaca Aaho. maga %yaat Aa[vaDIlaaMnaI jasa maulaavar Kca- kolaa tsaaca maulaIvarhI kolaolaa AsatÜÊ itlaahI vaaZvalaola Asat (a gaÜYTI duyyama Aahot. BalaohI (a sagaL\yaa gaÜYTI Káyaa AsatIla ikMvaa nasatIlahIÊ pNa maahorcaI jabaabdarI hI ]calalaIca pahIjao karNa %yaa vaoLolaa itcyaa r>acyaa laÜkaMcaI tI garja Asato.
(acaa Aqa- saasarI dula-xa krayaca Asaa hÜt naahI. (a sagaL\yaacaa samanvaya saaQaNao A%yaMt garjaocao Aaho.



Limbutimbu
Wednesday, September 28, 2005 - 7:33 am:   Edit Post Delete Post Print Post  Link to this message

lagnaanantr maahorcaI javaabadarI ... ..
baIbaIcaa ivaYaya ha Asaa ho²
myaa dÜna Aqaa-na baGatÜ...
1. lagnaanantr s~IcaI maahorbaabatcaI jabaabadarI ..
2. lagnaanantr s~Icyaa maahorkDcyaancaI s~IbaabatcaI jabaabadarI ..

svaPna far saundr Asatat
vaastva BayaaNa Asato²

1. lagnaanantr saurvaatIcaI baaLntpNao pihlyaavaYaa-cao saNa vagaOro maQao maahorcaI manDLI BaušsapaT hÜtat² jaÜDIlaa Baa} Asaola Ana %yaacaI baayakÜ mhNajao ihcaI vaihnaI AalaolaI Asaola tr maahorI QaumaakuL sauÉ Asatܲ
madt krNyaacyaa iknvaa kXaacyaa imaYaanao AalaolaI maahorvaaiXaNa caalavauna Gyaayalaa far kmaI vaihnyaa tyaar Asatat ha saava-i~k AnauBava² %yaatunahI hllaIcyaa kayaVap`maaNa maulaIlaa maahorcyaa [XTotIt samaana ihssaa zovalyaamauL itna maahorca doiKla krava ha naOitk jaÜr² vagaOro vagaOro .... pÜr maÜzI hÜvau laagatatÊ maulagaI naÜkrI krNaarI Asaola Ana maahor javaLca Asaola tr maahorca paLNaaGar banauna jaat²
maga pÜrancao AByaasaÊ kpDo saNa vagaOro gaÜYTI maahorIca ]rklyaa jaatat² %yaat BarIlaa mangaLagaÝrÊ vaTsaaiva~I vagaOro va`tancaI ]_\yaapnao vagaOro baabaI Aalyaaca² vaoLolaa ADIADcaNaIlaa maahorkDuna Aaiqa-k iknvaa vastu ÉpatÊ Aahor mhNauna vaa kXaI madt hÜtca Asato² AaiNa DÜmbala maulagaI ksalaI maahoralaa madt krtoÆ XaokDa kahI XatanXa T@ko vya>I AsatIla Apvaad mhNauna² ]laT kolaI tr maahorcaI maaNasaoca madt krIt Asatat² krIt rhatat²
2. pa^šnT TU p`maaNao kayaVanao maulaIlaa samaana ihssaa doNao laagat Asalyaanao mauilalaa iXakvaa pNaÊ dÜnhIkDcaa Kca- kÉna lagna pNa kÉna VaÊ puZcao vaYa-Barca navho tr itlaa maulaobaaLo hܚstÜvar vaogavaogaLo saNa samaarmBa %yaaip`%yaqa-cao Aahor vagaOro baabaI kra² maulagaI qaÜrlaI Asala tr QaakTIcyaa kayaa-t kaya kI pÜracyaa lagnaat kayaÊ qaÜrlyaa jaavayaalaa maanapana pusaa² Assa samaVa samaVa jabaabadaáyaa Asatat²
Ana yaovaZ kÉna maulagaI maahorcyaat ihssaa maagala tovha tÜ ibanabaÜBaaT kaZuna Vavaa laagatÜ iknvaa %yaaba_la rÜK r@kmaocaI tjavaIja kravaI laagatI tI vaogaLIca²

tumaca caalauVa² .. .. ..
malaa fkst p`XNa pDtatÊ Krca ho kayado s~Iyaancyaa ihtacao rxaNa krtat kaÆ is~yaancyaa ihtacao rxaNa kayaVanaI vhava kI samaajaatlyaa naOitktonao vhavaÆ kaya Kr Ana kaya KÜT²
mhNaunaca AaQaI mhNalaÊ svaPnao Kupca saundr Asatat²
vaastva Bayaa||Na Asato²
baakI tumacaI cacaa- caalauVa² :-)

Moodi
Wednesday, September 28, 2005 - 7:50 am:   Edit Post Delete Post Print Post  Link to this message

manauÊ ilambyaa Ana saayaÜ Cana baÜlalaat. ilambyaa mau_o Canaca maaMDlaosa.

samaš kÜNata mau_a duyyama Ana kÜNata EaoYz ho tu zrvaU nakÜsa. tulaa kaya vaaTto to baÜla.
AjaunahI Baartat huMDa Ana [tr samasyaa Barpur Aahot.
Ana sa%ya pirisqatI hIca Aaho kI maulaIcyaa maahorI itnao kolaolaI madt maga tI AqaI-k vaa XaarIrIk ka Asaonaa saasarI KTku Xakto.

Ana madt mhNajao kahI BaIk naahI kI kuNaI pdr psaÉna tI maagaavaI.
ekmaokanaa samajauna ]majauna Ana dÜnhIkDcao hIt baGaunaca balance saaMBaaLavaa laagatÜ. navara Ana saasarcyaa laÜkanaahI ivaXvaasaat Gyaavao laagato Ana tsao Krca Xa@ya nasaola tr Aaplyaa mau_\yaavar zama rahuna AaplyaahI jabaabadaáyaa AÜLKuna vaagaavao laagato.

dusaáyaacyaahI matacaa Aadr kravaa laagatÜ.

Sayonara
Wednesday, September 28, 2005 - 8:08 am:   Edit Post Delete Post Print Post  Link to this message

ilaMbaUÊ AXaI paLNaaGarM maaJyaa DÜL\yaasamaÜrca Aahot AaiNa naNaMd maahorI Aalyaavar Qausafusa krNaaáyaa vaihnyaahI paihlyaat. mhNaUna tuJaM mhNaNaM AgadI XaMBar T@ko maanya.
maUDIÊ naohmaIp`maaNaoca tuJaI balanced pÜsT.

Maitreyee
Wednesday, September 28, 2005 - 12:53 pm:   Edit Post Delete Post Print Post  Link to this message

ilaMbaUÊ Krya ro Ê sahIca pÜsT

Manuswini
Wednesday, September 28, 2005 - 7:24 pm:   Edit Post Delete Post Print Post  Link to this message

again just thought of sharing here,I am not using any "funda" here. I mean no BIG philosophy. But rather straight thinking.

I look at it this way,
one relatoinship( by birth -maher) is inherited and is most important,
other is aquired after marriage(again important), why we let create differentiation based on this status change.
You were/are daughter of that family ,you have right to do what you want to do.
if tomorrow my husabnd willing to do, I wouldnt questions, he is son and he would continue to do so.

Again, sayonara, if its something about us and for us to decide in other issues( how to plan our expenses, our life ) then I would discuss.

But whether I should spend money on my family or my husband should spend on his family ,its his question and choice. as long as both cna manage ,its not a topic of discussion I think:-))

karaa tumhala je kaay karayache te... asa mi sangen navarobana....
as long as he knows his responsibility why would I interfere seriously I think.

Madya
Thursday, September 29, 2005 - 2:24 am:   Edit Post Delete Post Print Post  Link to this message

manuswini,
ethe basic madhe locha aahe.
lagn zalyavar doghani ekatra wichar karayala hava. jase bayakochya salaryvar navaryacha hakk aahe tasech navaryachya salaryvar bayakocha hakk asayalaach havaa. ekatr milun jar tumhi decision ghetalaat tar te jast yogya hoyil.
jevha tumhi aapaapali jababdari ase mhanataa yamadhe doghani milun kutumbachya bhavitavyasathi kaahi savings karanaarach asataa,
aata mi mazya salarytil sarv amount mazya gharachyana madat mhanun dili tar bayako bomb maaranaar naahi ka? tasech bayakone kele tar mi bomb maaranaarach.
tyamule doghani milun tharavayala have ki aapalya doghanchi milkat kiti aahe, doghanchya gharachyana paishyachi kiti garaj aahe, tasech aapalyala mahinyala kiti paise laagataat, bhavishyasathi kiti rakkam bhaajula thevavi.

Hey chukiche aahe ki tula kaay have te kar. Mag ethe tumhi manane ekatra yevun rahaat naahit tar jase bachelors asataat, je ekatra rahaataat, aani jo kharch aahe to samaayik kharch karaayacha baaki tuzya paishyache kaay have te kar.



Ajjuka
Thursday, September 29, 2005 - 2:39 am:   Edit Post Delete Post Print Post  Link to this message

samašÊ pUNa- AnaUmaÜdna. madt ha Xabdca caukIcaa Aaho. tsaoca yaa ivaYayaavar cacaa- hÜNaM hohI. BB sau$ krNaaáyaalaa dÜYa dot naahIyao pNa yaa ivaYayaavar cacaa- kravaI laagaNaM ho Aaplyaa ‘mahana AaiNa p`acaIna’ saMsaÌtIcao dudO-va Aaho. maulagaa AsaÜ vaa maulagaI AašvaDIlaaMcaI jabaabadarI GaotlaIca pahIjao. kuNaa jaavayaalaa KTkt Asaola Aaplyaa baayakÜnao maahorcyaaMsaazI kahI krNao tr sorry for harsh words... but TO HELL WITH HIM!! tsaoca kuNaa saunaolaa KTkt Asaola trhI.. pNa tÜ ivaYaya yaa BB caa naahI.
kuNaacaI iktI jabaabadarI GyaavaI laagato ho pirisqatInausaarÊ garjaop`maaNao zrt Asato. itqao equal sharing caa ivacaar caukIcaa Aaho. f> itca vaoL Aaplyaa spouse cyaa AašvaDIlaaMvar AalaI tr tovaZIca tyaarI AaplaI Asaayalaa hvaI.
preferences cyaa baabatIt ivacaar kolaa tr navaáyaacyaa AašvaDIlaaMcaI garja p`qama maanalaI jaato AaiNa baayakÜcyaa AašvaDIlaaMcaI garja naMtr yaoto. ho inaiscat KTkto.
AaiNa hÜ ilaMbaUÊ maahorcao laÜk maulaIsaazI KUp kaya kaya krt Asatat ho Kro Aaho pNa %yaaca vaoLolaa generally tovaZoca to %yaaMcyaa maulaasaazIhI krt Asatat ikMvaa pUvaI- kolaolao Asato. naahI kaÆ
baakI yaa sagaL\yaacaI jaaNaIva zovaUna jabaabadarI GaotlaIca pahIjao ho maulaIMcyaa laxaat yaot naahI AaiNa maga ‘madt’ saarKa Xabd yaotÜ ho Kroca. pNa dudO-vaanao Aaplyaaca ‘mahana AaiNa p`acaIna’ saMsaÌtImaQao baašlaa maahorcyaa maaNasaaMcaI jabaabadarI Gyaayacao svaatM~\ya Asatoca Asao naahI.
manauÊ navaáyaaXaI discuss krayacaI garja naaho mhNatosa to Kro Aaho pNa kQaI jaovha tI Aaiqa-kdRYT\yaa svatM~ Aaho tovha. jaI baaš AXaI svatM~ naahI itnao kaya kravaoÆ
yaoNaaáyaa imaLktIt GaratIla baašcaa 50 % vaaTa maanya kolaa Aaho kayaVanao maga tI svatÁ imaLvat nasalaI trI. pNa ho svaatM~\ya Krca iktI jaNaIMnaa AsatoÆ iktI AXyaa baayaka jyaaMnaa kmaavat nasalyaamauLo Aaplyaa AašvaDIlaaMsaazI kahIhI krayalaa kanakÜMDM vaaTtMÆ %yaaMcaM kayaÆ
ivaYaya BarkTlaa Aaho qaÜDa %yaaba_la xamasva..

Bhagya
Thursday, September 29, 2005 - 2:49 am:   Edit Post Delete Post Print Post  Link to this message

ilaMbaUÊ sahI ilaihlaMsa. AaiNa maI
maUDIXaI ekdma sahmat.

Samai
Thursday, September 29, 2005 - 5:32 am:   Edit Post Delete Post Print Post  Link to this message

mauDI taš mhNatosa to ekdma maanya kI saasarcyaa laÜkaMnaa ivaXvaasaat GyaavaÊ pNa saasau saasaáyaaMcaI jabaabdarI Gaotanaa AapNa (a gaÜYTIMcaa ivacaar krtÜ kaÆ
naahIÊ %yaa jabaabdaáyaa Aapsauk AaMgaavar yao]na pDlaolyaa Asatat naaÆ maga maahorcaI jabaabdarI Gaotanaa ha ivacaar kaÆ
Aaplyaa Garcyaa laÜkaMcaI jabaabdarI Gaotanaa navara baayakÜlaa ivacaartÜ kaÆ maga baayakÜnao tsa ivacaarava AXaI Apoxaa kaÆ navaáyaacao Aa[ vaDIla to Aa[ vaDIla AaiNa baayakÜcao to kÜNaÆ
baaš nao lagna kÉna Garat Aalyaavar Aaplyaapoxaa lahana idraMca naNaMdaMca krayacaÊ maga baayakÜcyaa lahana BaavaMdaMivaYayaI navaáyaacaa hI tÜ dRYTIkÜna pahIjao Asa malaa vaaTt.


Champak
Thursday, September 29, 2005 - 6:22 am:   Edit Post Delete Post Print Post  Link to this message

malaa vaaTtoÊ ik ha p`Xna ilaimaToD hoÊ AXyaa maulaIMsaaqaI jyaaMnaa Baa] naahIt Aqavaa jyaaMcao Baa] Ajauna CÜTo Aahot Ana jabaabadarI polaNyaasa samaqa- naahIt. Aqavaa Asao Baa] ik jao svatÁ cyaa Aaš vaiDlaaMcaI jabaabadarI TaLt Aahot Ôa^r vhaT saÜ evhr irsana²

AXyaa ilaimaToD kosaosa maQyao maulaInao ija kI saasarI gaolaI AahoÊ itnao saasarcyaa laÜkaMnaaÊ [M@lauiDMga navaraÊ ivacaaÉna Ê sallaa masalat kÉNa itcyaa Aaš baabaaMcaI saÜya kolaI pahIjaoÊ maahor caI jabaabadarI ]calalaI pahIjao. Ana navara va saasarcao laÜk hI %yaasa maanyata dotIla Asao vaaTto. Apvaad sagaLIkDo ca Asatat.

jar navara malaa ivacaart naahI mhNauna maI navaáyaalaa ka ivacaaÉ AaiNa vhašsa vhsaa- jar kolao tr saMsaaracaa raDa Jaalaa ca mhNauna samajaa²

Samai
Thursday, September 29, 2005 - 6:31 am:   Edit Post Delete Post Print Post  Link to this message

caMpk maanya kI navara baayakÜnao e@maokaMnaa ivacaaÉna rahayalaa pahIjao
pNa %yaat navara saÜDlaa tr [tr saasarcyaa laÜkaMcaa kuzo saMbaMQa yaotÜ. ha sarsvaI %yaa maulaIcaa AaiNa navaáyaacaa p`Xna navho kaÆ
%yaat saasau saasaro kuzo maQyao yaotatÆ


Prashantkhapane
Thursday, September 29, 2005 - 6:35 am:   Edit Post Delete Post Print Post  Link to this message

What makes me more uncomfortbale that we(girls) have to really discuss this and know "husband's wish or opinion" whether we can or we should help or not? OR we would helping our own parents after marriage?.
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I understand what you mean. But this is just a symptom and not the disease.

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would husband discuss this if he should or he wants to continue helping his parents? NO.. i dont think?
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He better does that to avoid the 'disease' I mentioned above. If not he is inviting trouble, may be not at present but it sure is just a matter of time.

As I said - the symptom is the 'me-first' 'distrust', etc the disease is well known.

Moodi
Thursday, September 29, 2005 - 8:12 am:   Edit Post Delete Post Print Post  Link to this message

samaš
maI jaovha yaa p`Xnaavar maaJaI mato maaMDlaI tovha kahI p`%yaxa ]dahrNao maaJyaa DÜL\yaasamaÜr Aahot mhNaUna tI maaMDlaI.
Aatacaa jamaanaa ha kahI mahaBaartkalaIna jamaanaa naahI kI maulaacaI AÜLK AgadI isanaomaat daKvatat %yaap`maaNao kuMtIpu~ Ana gaaMQaarI pu~ AXaI hÜtI. %yaa vaoLosa mhNajao AnaadI kaLat isa`yaaMcao rajya Ana sa<aa hÜtI iknvaa maanyata hÜtIÊ mato ivacaarat GaotlaI jaat hÜtI. Aata AjaunahI sagaLIkDo puÉYap`Qaana saMsaÌtI Aaho.

AapNa iktIhI mau> AsalaÜ trI Garat vaDIlaanaa iknvaa navaáyaaÊ saasaáyaalaa saaMgaItlyaaiXavaaya ekTo inaNa-ya Gao} Xakt naahI hI vastuisqatI Aaho. mhNaunaca maI mhNatoya kI sa`IyaaMnaI Aaplyaa payaavar ]Bao raihlao paihjao. maI AaQaIca mhTlaya kI savaa-MXaI ivacaar ivainamayaanao inaNa-ya vhavaa.


Aaplyaa smaajaat 3 str Aahot Ana maaJao mat ilaihtanaa maI %yaacaahI ivacaar kolaa hÜta.

]cca maQyamavagaI-ya ha pihlaa str jyaat kuTuMbaat navara baayakÜ dÜnhI kmaavaNaaro iknvaa rITayaD-Ê javaL baMgalaa gaaDIÊ prdoXa vaaáyaaÊ maulao saunaa Ê maulaI prdoXaat. kuTuMbaacaI ikmaana maaisak kmaaš dÜGao imaLuna 30 hjaar. ksalaI jabaabadarI naahI. f> mhtarpNa Ana AajarpNa yaa dÜnaca gaÜYTI.

maQyamavaga- ha dusara str jyaat navara kmaavaNaara Ana baayakÜ gaRihNaI iknvaa maga itcao byauTI pala-r Ê iXavaNakama iknvaa Anya caaMgalao Ana gaRhÜpyaÜgaI kmaašcao saaQanaÊ maulao iXakNaarI.

AaNaI XaovaTcaa str mhNajao jyaat navara f> kmaavaNaaraÊ baayakÜcaI kmaaš naahIÊ Barpur jabaabadaáyaa AXaa Anaok gaÜYTI.

Aata ijaqao baayaka Kup kmaavatayat Ana svatacyaa saMsaarabarÜbar maahorIcaohI kt-vya ³ madtIlaa ha dusara gaÜMDsa Xabd´ par paDt Aahot itqao yaa tËarI ]d\Bavat naahIt. pNa ijaqao maulaaMcao iXaxaNaÊ Garacao hPtoÊ AajaarpNaoÊ kMpnyaa baMd pDuna navaáyaacaI naÜkrI jaaNao Ê Ana maga saMsaaralaa pOsaa kmaI pDuna kuTuMbaat Qausafusa hÜNao yaatunaca Asao p`Xna inamaa-Na hÜtat.

]cca maQyamavagaI-yaanaa yaat ~asa hÜt naahI. ha p`Xna AXaaca izkaNaI yaotÜ ijaqao maulaIlaa tI kmaavatI nasalyaasa Ana AXaa AaqaI-k jabaabadaáyaa Acaanak ]Bao raihlyaasa saasarcyaa iknvaa navaáyaacyaa rÜYaalaa tÜMD Vavao laagato.

maulagaI kmaavatI Asalyaasa ³ varIla ]dahrNaap`maaNao mhNajao ijanao ha p`Xna ivacarlaaya ´ Ana navarahI svaBaavaanao maÜkLa Ana samaana AiQakaranaa maanyata doNaara Asalyaasa maahorI kaya iknvaa [tr izkaNaI mhNajao samaajaatIla garjau maulaaMcaI AaqaI-k garja purvaNao yaat Aaplaa vaaTa doNaI kaya ho XaaMtpNaanao Ana prspr sahmatInao hÜvau Xakto. Anyaqaa vaad hÜvauna kuTuMbaat duravaa inamaa-Na hÜtÜ.

maaJyaa Xaojaarcyaa maulaInao itcyaa maahorI pOsao vaDIlaaMcyaa AajaarpNaakrta mhNauna pazvalao tr dÜGaa navara baayakÜMcaI BaaMDNao hÜvauna GaTsfÜT sauwa Jaalaaya 4 vaYaa-pUvaI-ca. AgadI dÜGaaMcaa p`omaivavaah hÜvaunahI ha p`kar. ³ Aata kahI laÜk maaJyaa yaa ilaKaNaavarhI Aaxaop GaotIla kI ho ]dahrNa kaca ilaihlao. pNa DÜL\yaavar p+I AÜZlaI Ana kovaL EaImaMtaMcyaat rahuna %yaaMcaoca ivacaar kolao kI maga Asao vaacauna BaaMDayalaa ]ztat ho laÜk´

samaš Aaplaa samaaja evaZa maÜkL\yaa Ana samaana ivacaarsarNaIcaa Asata naa tr maga yaa maulaIlaa ha p`Xna [qao maaMDayacaIhI garja BaasalaI nasatIÊ huMDa baLIcaI p`krNao JaalaI nasatIÊ saunaonao saasaulaa iknvaa saasaunao saunaolaa CLlaoca nasato.

kahI mhNatIla [qao saasau saunaa Ana saasar ha ivaYaya maQyaoca ksaa AalaaÆ Aro maga (a laÜkaMcaa kahI saMbaMQaca naaihyao tr maga maulaInao itcaI kmaaš maahorI idlaI tr navara kXaalaa kÜklaolaÆ tÜ hI mhNaolaca naa kI Aaplyaa saMsaarat Aaplyaa garjaa BaagavaunaÊ qaÜDo pOsao saazvauna tu maahorcaI jabaabadarI ³ Aata jabaabadarI ha Xabd laÜZNao vaaTtÜya kuNaalaaÆ kI [qao dusara gaÜMDsa Xabd hvaayaÆ´ Ana kt-vya par paD.

maulaInao Aaplyaa lagnaanaMtrcyaa jabaabadaáyaa Ana maahoracyaa garjaa yaa dÜnhIt samatÜla saaQalaaca paihjao. navaáyaacaI madt Ana saaqa yaat hvaIca. kraNa maahorcaI AaqaI-k garja tI maulagaI Baagavau Xakola Aaplyaa pOXaatuna pNa XaairrIk garja Ana maanasaIk garja yaathI navaáyaacaI saaqa hvaI ka nakÜÆ Aaja kahI jaNaIMcao Baa} baihNa ho XairrIk iknvaa maanasaIk dRYTInao ivaklaaMga AahotÊ maga navaáyaaXaI baÜlauna tIhI jabaabadarI baGaayalaa nakÜÆ kI nausato maahorI pOsaa idlaa Ana BaagalaoÆ

Ana maga yaa sava- p`krNaat navara kuzoca nasaola tr maga navara Ana saasarcaI maaNasao yaaMcyaakDunahI kuzlaIca Apoxaa zovau nayao. karNa nausata pOXaanao kahI hÜt naahI. AajaarI pDlao Ê dudO-vaanao ApGaat Jaalaa tr navara ha %yaacyaa maaNasaaMbarÜbar sagaL\yaaMcaI madt kÉ XaktÜ.

mhNauna ]gaIca maI kmaavato ha gava- QaÉna maaNasao na tÜDta tI jaÜDuna p`Xna saÜDvaavaot.

Zakki
Thursday, September 29, 2005 - 10:28 am:   Edit Post Delete Post Print Post  Link to this message

Aai<acyaa² Aata lagna krtanaa maa|ro ‘AamhI maÜzo JaalaÜÊ kuNaavarih p`oma k$Ê lagna k$’Ê Asao mhNaayacao. ‘p`omaasaazI vaiDlaÜpaija-t saMp<aIvar paiNa saÜDUnaÊ ho Gar saÜDUna caalata³tI´ hܚna’ Asalyaa baata maarayacyaa. lagna Jaalyaavar ‘Aamacao AamhI baGaUna Gao}’ AXyaa valganaa krayacyaa. ina naMtr maa~ " maahorcyaa jabaabadaáyaa " ]k$na kaZayacyaa²²
jabaabadarI kahI naahI. p`omaanao krayacao Asaola tr dusaáyaasaazI kahI kra. lahanapNaI dusaáyaa kuNaalaaih madt kravaI Asao saMskar Jaalao AsatIla tr p`omaanao tsao kra. baakI tumacao tumhI saaMBaaLlao trI puro²² Asao Aaplao malaa vaaTto.

Champak
Thursday, September 29, 2005 - 10:52 am:   Edit Post Delete Post Print Post  Link to this message

Ja@kI saahobaÊ tumacao ekdma rast.
Gar dÜGaaMcao Asato ² Ana t%sama cauikcyaa samajautIvar tyaar JaalaolaI maanaisaktaÊ itsara kuNaI Aalaa ik lagaoca ADcaNa huto (asnaI. svatÁ cyaa vyai>gat mah%vaakaMxaa ]rI baaLgatanaa Ana %yaa p`%yaxaat AaNatanaa kÝTuMibak Ana saamaaijak jabaabadarI cao Baana sauTt caallao Aaho Asao vaaTto. Ana maga maa(a saMsaarat Ô> maI Ana maaJaa rajaa Aa^iblak raNaI Asaa p`kar hÜtÜ. AsaÜ.

(a svaITI laa kahI kama nhaš. ek dÜna maihnyaatuna yaoto Ana kaDI laavauna jaato. kQaI mhNato p`omaacaa ivavaah ksaa AsaavaaÆ lagna kÉna yaoto Ana mhNao ik vaoXyaa vyavasaaya bara ik vaašTÆ Ana Aata mhNato ik maahorcaI jabaabadarI hoÊ kaya kÉÆ

tÜ ilaMbyaa dr rÜja kaDI laavaayalaa baGatÜ pNa jamat ca nhaš:-)

Limbutimbu
Thursday, September 29, 2005 - 11:05 am:   Edit Post Delete Post Print Post  Link to this message

svaITIÊ tuJaa p`XNa isampla ho² %yaacyaat maahorcaI vagaOro jabaabadarIcaa sambanQaca naahI²
tU Fla^T GaotlaasaÊ kuNaacyaa naavaavar Gaotlaa hosaÆ jar tuJyaa naavaavar Gaotlaa AsaXaIla tr hPto BarNao AÜGaanao Aalaoca iXavaaya tI [sToT tuJaI Asalyaanao %yaabaabat jaÜDIdaranao KLKL kÉ nayaoÊ kolaI kI kaya to tU ilaihla naahIhosa²
%yaa Fla^tmaQyao saw\yaa kÜNa rhat hoÆ
%yaancyaakDuna BaaD vagaOro yaot kaÆ hÜÊ AgadI maahorcaI AsalaI trI kmaavatI AsalaI tr BaaD vasaula krNa garjaoca ho² Asa malaa trI vaaTt² baakI iDTolsa imaLalyaaiXavaaya kahI baÜlata yaot nhaš²

camPyaa ]calalaa hat badDlaa kIbaÜD- Asa maa(abaabatIt kÉ nagasa² baÜT zocakaLtIla² DDD

Moodi
Thursday, September 29, 2005 - 11:25 am:   Edit Post Delete Post Print Post  Link to this message

ilambyaa saÝ saunaarkI Ana ek laÜharkI. hO ro pz\yaa. Balao Xaabaasa. Aata p`Xna sauTlaa ro.

e sweeti marazIt ilahI kI. ]gaIca minglish kXaalaa. jaama gaÜMQaL ]Dvalaa. ilambyaa XaÜBatÜsa tu a/c maQalaa.

Moodi
Thursday, September 29, 2005 - 11:34 am:   Edit Post Delete Post Print Post  Link to this message

maaJyaa mato hI ilank sauwa Cana Aaho.

http://www.esakal.com/today/baimanus7.html

Arch
Thursday, September 29, 2005 - 2:12 pm:   Edit Post Delete Post Print Post  Link to this message

navara jar baayakÜlaa confidence maQyao Gao}na sagaL krt nasaola tr baayakÜkDUna tXaI Apoxaa k$ nayao. barocada maulaaMnaa lagna JaalyaavarhI AašvaiDlaaMnaa ivacaa$na sagaL krayacaI savaya Asato AaiNa %yaaba_la baayakÜXaI saMvaadhI saaQalaolaa nasatÜ AXaavaoLI baayakÜnaohI navaáyaacyaa saMmatIcaI vaaT phavaI (alaa kahI Aqa- naahI

maUDIÊ kahI vaoLI sausaMsaÌt³Æ´Ê iXaklaolyaaÊ AaiNa iEamaMt maulaaMnaahI baayakÜcyaa AašvaiDlaaMnaa mauilakDo yaayacao privileges Aahot pNa maaJyaa AašvaiDlaaMcaa maaJyaa GarI yaoNa ha h@k Aaho AiXahI samajaUt Asato. tI AaplyaakDUna kQaI jaašla tr Aašnao maulaaMnaa vaaZvatanaa maulagaa maulagaI Asaa dujaaBaava daKvaU nayao ikMvaa lahanapNaapasaUna maulaavar tsao saMskar kravao

Moodi
Thursday, September 29, 2005 - 2:41 pm:   Edit Post Delete Post Print Post  Link to this message

Aaca- tuJao ho mau_o jaÉr malaa maanya Aahot Ana maI kayama dÜnhIkDcaa ivacaar krto kI jaoNaokÉna kuTuMbaat vaad hÜvau nayaot.

maulao baayakÜlaa gaRhIt Qart naahIt ho sauwa baiGatlaya pNa baayakÜcyaa pOXaavar maa~ tabaDtÜk AiQakar daKvatat . Balao maga itnao iktIhI tDjaÜD vaa kYT kolao AsatIla trI.

pNa maI hI yaaca zama mau_\yaacaIhI Aaho kI maulagaa Ana maulagaI yaat kQaIca Baod na krta %yaanaa ]<ama iXaxaNa dovauna Ê saMskar kÉna AaplyaabarÜbar [traMcaohI jaIvana samaRw krta Aalao paihjao. trca kuTuMba Káyaa Aqaa-nao kuTuMba banat Ana tohI ijavhaL\yaaca.

samašcao hI mau_o caaMgalao Aahot kI maulagaa jar Aaplyaa GarcaI jabaabadarI Gaotanaa baayakÜlaa ivacaart naahI tr maulaInao sauwa ka ivacaaravaoÊ pNa p`Xna tovhaca yaotÜ kI yaa gaÜYTI AaQaI kbaula kolyaa jaatat saasarcyaaMkDuna Ana naMtr TaLlyaa jaatat.

caaMgalyaa iXaklaolyaa maulaIlaa AaQaI hÜ mhTlao jaato lagnaaMAtr naÜkrI kÉ idlaI jaašla mhNauna pNa ekda maulao JaalaI kI tI kXaI gauMtto Ana Jaurto hohI baiGatlaya.

mhNaunaca maI mhNaona kI savaa-MXaI spYT baÜlauna Ana saaMgauna Aaplao p`Xna saÜDvaavaot.

Kro tr svaITInao itcyaa naavaavar Fla^T kolaa Asaola tr hPto BaÉna maÜkLo vhavao Ana maahorI AaqaI-k kt-vya par paDuna Baa] baihNaInaa pNa svatacyaa payaavar ]Bao krayalaa hatBaar laavaavaa. yaat ha p`Xnaca yaot naahI kI maI kÉ ka. maI AaQaIcyaa maaJyaa pÜsTmaQyao hoca mhTlaya kI Aaplao kt-vya par paDavaoca .maga to saasarcao AsaÜ vaa maahorcao.

Ana Ja@kI mhNatat toca Kro jao kravao to p`omaanao ]gaIca kt-vya Ana jabaabadarIcao BalaomaÜzo Xabd nakÜt. kuTuMba s~I jaÜDto tovha zamapNaa itcyaat Asalaaca paihjao.


Ajauna ha jamaanaa yaayacaaya kI saaro maulagao Garjaavaš banauna rhatIla Ana maga %yaanaI Aaplayaa AašvaDIlaaMsaazI kahI kravao kI naahI. maga tovha AXaa pÜsT\sa yaoNaar naahIt maayabaÜlaIvarhI.

Megha16
Thursday, September 29, 2005 - 2:42 pm:   Edit Post Delete Post Print Post  Link to this message

varcao sagalao laoK vaacalao.
maaj,yaa AnauBavaa nausaar Êp`%yaok maulaInao maahorI madt kolaI pahIjao.
karNa AXaI baroca jaNa Aahot kI %yaanaa f> ek ca maulagaI Aaho.maga AXaa vaoLI to Aaplyaa maulaI kDo ca Aasa laavauna Asatat naa.
karNa baryaaca da maulaIcao lagna Kup lavakr hÜtat.AaNaI ekda lagna Jaala ka ik saasar cyaa maD\laI naa vaaT\t kI hInao Aata maahorI posao do} nayao.
AaNaI maga yaavaÉna vaad­ ivavaad hÜtat.
%yaapoksaa AaQaIca navaryaa XaI baÜlauna Gyaavao.karNa tÜ jar sahmat Asaola tr maga kayaÆ
pNa Aaplyaalaa saud`\Qaa %yaalaa pT\vauna dota Aala paihjao.
karNa %yaacyaa iXavaaya kÜNaI ekuna Gaonaar nasat.

Megha16
Thursday, September 29, 2005 - 2:48 pm:   Edit Post Delete Post Print Post  Link to this message

mauDI maI pNa tuj,yaa mataXaI sahmat Aaho.
navaro laÜk sahsaa baayakanaa saasau samaÜr kahI Baava dot naahI.
AaNaI pga,ara cyaavaoLI yaanaa baayaka Aatvatat.

Moodi
Thursday, September 29, 2005 - 3:09 pm:   Edit Post Delete Post Print Post  Link to this message

Krya maoGaa. Ana maI AaQaI mhTlao kI navaáyaalaa hI jaaNaIva kÉna Va mhNaUna karNa maaJaa maamaoBaa} badlaIinaima<a idllaIt Aaho. maaJaa maamaa 2 vaoLa ICU t hÜta tovha jaavayaanaoca XaairrIk Ana AaqaI-k madt kolaI karNa QaavapL krNaarI kuNaI dusarI tÉNa maMDLI Aasapasa navhtI.

mhNaunaca inadana yaa AaGaaDIvar trI maaNasaanaa dur saarta yaot naahI karNa svatacaI naÜkrIÊ maulao ho sava- saaMBaaLNao ekT\yaa s~Ilaa %yaa ivadark vaoLI jamat naahI.tI maahorI pOXyaacaI madt kÉ Xakto. pNa Gar saaMBaaLuna AXaI QaavapL krNao Ana vaarMvaar rjaa imaLNao hohI kizNa jaato.



Moodi
Thursday, September 29, 2005 - 3:43 pm:   Edit Post Delete Post Print Post  Link to this message

var savaa-naI AappalaI mato maaMDlaIt pNa malaa ek p`Xna pDlaaya. Aata naIT saaMgato baGaa yaacao ]<ar kuNaalaa imaLola kaÆ

ijanao ha p`Xna maaMDlaa tI svaITI svata kmaavatI Aaho mhNauna tI itcao inaNa-ya Ana itcaa pOsaa yaavar svata kMT/Üla kÉ Xakto pNa jar eKaVa saaQyaa Ê na kmaava%yaa mhNajao naÜkrI na krt AsalaolyaaÊ kovaL gaRihNaI mhNauna Ana 1-2 maulaaMcaI Aaš Asalaolyaa maulaIvar varIla p`saMga Aalaa tr itnao kaya kravaoÆ

jar samajaa navaáyaalaa ivacaarlao ³ karNa itcyaakDo income source naaihyao´Ê Ana navaáyaanao itlaa eonavaoLovar pOsao Vayalaa nakar idlaa tr kaya kÉ Xakola hI ekTI s~IÆ

Baartat tI naÜkrI XaÜQaolaÊ vaoL p`saMgaI dusaáyaaMcao Dbao banavaNaoÊ KajagaI iXakvaNyaa GaoNaoÊ byauTI pala-ma-Qyao kama krNao vaa computer class maQyao iXakvaNao ho pyaa-ya AsatIla Ana imaLtIlahI pNa tI maulagaI samajaa prdoXaI Asaola trÆ

karNa prdoXaat kahI ivasaacao inayama kDk AahotÊ itqao baayaka kama kÉ Xakt naahIt navaáyaacyaa work permit var.

maga %yaa maulaInao kaya kravaoÆ Ìpyaa ho maI sahja ivacaarIt Aaho. karNa maI Baartabaahor naÜkrI kolaolaI naahI. karNa prdoXaatIla pOsaa ha Baartapoxaa itPpT AahoÊ jar %yaa maulaIlaa naÜkrI imaLalaI tr saÜnao naahItrÆÆ

Punyanagarikar
Thursday, September 29, 2005 - 3:58 pm:   Edit Post Delete Post Print Post  Link to this message

maUDIÊ maI ]<ar marazIt na dota šMga`ijat doto Aaho - to malaa saÜp pDtM.

I believe your premise is fundamentally flawed. you are assuming husband's money to be *his* money and wife's money to be *her* money. Or at the very least, assuming the respective husbands and wives think in this way. If the marriage is based on such ideas, it is not built to last.
the husband may go out to work and the wife may stay at home and take care of the house and family - but they BOTH earn the money in the bank.
when both husband and wife think along these lines, there will be minimal conflict as to who is justified in spending the money.

baakI malaa Aca- caI matM naohomaIp`maaNaoca AitXaya balanced vaaTlaI.


Megha16
Thursday, September 29, 2005 - 4:10 pm:   Edit Post Delete Post Print Post  Link to this message

mauDI tu m*Nto to AgadI yaÜgya Aaho.
karna šqao tr naÜkrI imaL\Nao Xa@yaca naahI.
AXaa vaoLI itnao jamala tr šqao [naiDyana dukanaat vagaoro kama krayalaa hrkt naahI. šqao ek caagala Aaho kI kÜNathI kama kmaI ikmatI samajala jaat naahI.AaNaI nausat GarI irkama basauna sauQaa kahI fayada naahI. karNa bahutok baayakanaa šqao yaoNyaa cyaa AaQaI maaiht nasat ik AapNa naÜkrI naahI kÉ Xakt.
maga AXaa vaoLI Êbaahor jaa}na kama kolao tr qaÜDI AÜL\K pNa hÜtoÊAaNaI qaÜDo far pOsao pNa imaL\tat.to pOsao AapaNa GarI paz} Xa>Ü naa. yaasaazI p`ya%na krayalaa hrkt nahI.karNa šqao laÜkla basa caI saÜya pNa caagalaI Aaho.





Punyanagarikar
Thursday, September 29, 2005 - 4:13 pm:   Edit Post Delete Post Print Post  Link to this message

maoGaa.. work permit nasatanaa pOsao kmaavaNaM ³]da h4 var´ ho illegal samajatat.
ek disclaimer Takavaasaa vaaTlaa.. baaik tumacaM caalaU do.

Pama
Thursday, September 29, 2005 - 4:16 pm:   Edit Post Delete Post Print Post  Link to this message

maUDI Ê maI AgadI yaaca p`Xnaaca ]<ar ilahIt hÜtI tovhD\yaat tU ivacaarlaasa p`Xna.
maaJyaa saar#yaa prdoXaat AsaNaaáyaa housewives ca kayaÆ AašvaDIla AsaÜ ik saasaU saasaro Ê sagaLoca dUr Aahot.garja pDlyaasa AamhI dÜGaohI [qaUna kovaL Aaiqa-k madt k$ XaktÜÊ fartr maI itkDo jaa}na laagaola tI madt vaoLp`saMgaI k$ Xakto. maI kmaavat naahI mhNaUna malaa vaoLp`saMgaI navaáyaalaa posao maagaNyaat kuzlaaca saMkÜca ikMvaa kmaIpNaa vaaTt naahI. malaa vaaTt tÜ h@kca Aaho maaJaa. f> Aaplyaa sagaL\yaa jabaabadaáyaa AÜLKUna AMqa$Na pahUna paya psarayalaa hvao. %yaacaI saÜya mhNaUna maaJaa navara dr maihnyaalaa kahI r@kma malaa vaogaLI kaZUna dotÜ. yaaca tU hva to kr mhNaUna. tI kXaI Kcaa-yacaI ikMvaa saaMBaaLUna zovaayacaIÊ saasarI VayacaI ik maahorIÊ to maI zrvato. maI vaoLp`saMgaI tI r@kma ]calaUna kÜNaalaahI do} Xakto. pNa maI kaya krtoya to navaáyaalaa na@kIca maahIt AsatÊ karNa inaNa-ya maaJaa Asalaa trI maahIt AsaNa %yaacaahI h@kca Aaho. Aata maI jar kmaavatI Asato trI inaNa-ya maaJaaca AsataÊ pNa %yaalaa %yaabaabad sallaa doNyaacaa AaiNa mat p`dXa-na krNyaacaa h@k Aahoca.
malaa vaaTt ho qaÜD ivaYayaaMtr hÜtyaÊ pNa maaJaa mauda [qakaca ik kuNaacaohI Aaš vaDIla AsaÜÊ kXaI Ê kuzo AaiNa kaya madt kravaI Ê ho ekmaokat zrvaUna krava specially Aaiqa-k karNa kLIcaa mau_a tÜca Aaho. maanaisak AaiNa Xaairirk madt krayalaa pOsao Kca-t naahIt %yaamauLo %yaaba_la kuNaacaaca Aaxaop nastÜ.maulaIMnaI maahorIca naahI tr [trhI izkaNaI laagaola tI madt ja$r kravaI. f> navaáyaaXaI discuss kravao. AapNa saMsaarat [tr sava- gaÜYTI discuss krtÜ maga hI ka naahIÆ yaatca maaJao pOsao maI kahI krIna Asaa ego ikMvaa h+ mhNaa Ê ka krayacaaÆ


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