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Timbaktoo
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| | Tuesday, August 10, 2004 - 3:12 pm: | 
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Hi all,
I am regular reader of Maayboli but writing for the first time about my problem. if possible please post your comments here and do not send me emails. But if you need to you can.
Please forgive me for writing in English. It will be very difficult for me to try writing in marathi. In few days I will practise and then will write.
I got married about 6 years back in typical arranged marriage -- boy visits India, finds a good match and then gets married in a month time frame and both of them come to US to start their new life without support of family. This is what happened to me. My husband was here for about 6-7 years before I came here -- so he is/was very independent, basically have lived alone for so long that does not need anybody.
Long story short, we did get along well initially but then we started drifting apart. We did not take outside help like counselling etc but tried to work on ourselves as person. why ??? I can't answer that question in detail. But can only one thing I can not keep changing myself and other person has no interest in doing so.
Now at this point of time we are so much apart from each other that we are about to get separated and I need lawyer recommondation. It's very hard to find good one. to be particular I am looking for Lawyer in California in Alameda county.
To make matters worst I recently lost my job so I am looking for one too.
I appreciate all your support and help.
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Eliza
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| | Tuesday, August 10, 2004 - 3:30 pm: |
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Dear Timbaktoo,
I believe that there are two parts to your post..
1. You need help to find a lawer. I guess admin/mod can move that part to the 'looking for' BB where people may be able to give proper answers.
2. Second is about the whole compitable/incompitble issue of the marriage. It dosen't matter if its arranged or love. Anyways love marriages have higher % of separation and divorce than arranged. This BB can be used to talk about it if you think so.
Good luck with your job search and everything.
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Timbaktoo
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| | Tuesday, August 10, 2004 - 5:07 pm: |
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admin/mods -- you can make changes as Eliza has suggested.
Thank you Eliza.
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(a BB caa vaapr compatibility issues discuss krayalaa krayacaa kaÆ
ik%yaok maulao [qao 6 to 7 vaXao- ekTo rahuna ³mhNajao drvaXaI- KP krNyaasaiz doXaat jaatat´ Baartat jaavauna lagna kÉna yaotat AaiNa maga dÜGaancyaa AavaDI inavaDI dÜna
tÜkaMcyaa Asatat tovha %yaacaa samatÜla ksaa saaQaavaaÆÆ
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Timbaktoo
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| | Tuesday, August 17, 2004 - 5:48 am: |
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I did not know Maaybokars donot respond to the posts written by new comers...
Sorry I posted my thoughts here .. Admin/Moderators please close this BB as nobody wants to share anything...
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Mrudu
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| | Tuesday, August 17, 2004 - 6:17 pm: |
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namaskar Timbaktoo .
maI maagacyaa AazvaD\yaat tumacaa p`Xna vaacalaa. %yaabaabat kahI madt krta yaoNyaasaarKI idsalaI naahI.
AaiNa lagnaÊ compatibility problem caa malaa tsaa kahIca AnauBava naahIÊ %yaamauLo kahI ilaihlao naahI. AajaÊ eka maOi~NaInao tI GaTsfÜT
GaoNaar AsalyaacaI baatmaI saaMigatlaI. malaa Qa@kaca basalaa. maaJyaa ka gaMÆ laa itnao tumacyaa saarKo
'compatibility issues' Asao ]<ar idlao² AaiNa puZo mhNajao kaya to qaÜDo samajaavaUnahI saaMigatlao.
tI eka maÜz\yaa IT company maQao ma^naojar Aaho. itcaa navara itcyaahUna senior AsaUna sauwa ma^naojar vagaOro naahI. tI Aqaa-tca %yaacyaapoxaa huXaar Aaho. mhNajao XaaLaka^laojaatlyaa
T@@yaaMpasaUna to career pya-Mt. %yaacyaa male ego laa Qa@ka laagaU laagalaa va KTko ]DU laagalao. lagna zrvatanaaca hI gaÜYT maaiht hÜtI. pNa dÜGaaMcyaa
pi~komaQao kahI trI ivaXaoYa gauNa jauLt hÜtoÊ mhNaUna maulaakDcyaannaI hÜkar idlaa. itlaa navaáyaacyaa
career baabat ³mhNajao tÜ AaplyaahUna dÜna baÜTo var Asaavaa [ [´ kahI vaaTt navhto. caaMgalaa maaNaUsa Asaavaa
[tkoca. zrvaUna kolaolyaa lagnaaMp`maaNao jyaa dÜna BaoTI GaDlyaa %yaat tÜ caaMgalaaca vaaTlaa. pNa puZo
ho Asao Jaalao.
hI GaTnaa tumacyaa tumacyaa maULcyaa p`XnaahUna vaogaLI Aaho. pNa tIhI compatibility issues mhNaalaIÊ mhNaUna [qao ilaihlao.
malaa ekMdirt lagnasaMsqaocaaca problem idsatÜ Aaho. zrvatanaa kuzlyaa gaÜYTI phavyaaÊ AaiNa kuzlyaaMnaa mah%va do} nayao yaacaa p`%yaokanao Aapaplaa
naIT ivacaar kolaa paihjao. sagaLo inaNa-ya palakaMnaI Gaotlao trI XaovaTI AayauYya Aaplyaalaaca jagaavao
laagato.
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Arch
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| | Tuesday, August 17, 2004 - 6:52 pm: |
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hI AaplaI maaJaI theory Aaho. hllaI maulaM maulaI ]iXara ]iXara lagna krayalaa laagalaI Aahot. vayaanausaarÊ p`%yaokanao AapaplaI
mat GaDvalaolaI Asatat. AaiNa vayaanausaar tI [traMcyaasaazI badlaayalaa jaDpNa jaat Asat. Aajakala maulamaulaI
barÜbarInao iXaklaolaoÊ kmaavaNaaro Asatat. %yaatca %yaaMcaI matpNa p@kI JaalaolaI Asatat %yaamauLo p`%yaokvaoLI
kÜNaI pDt Gyaayaca (acaa p`XNa AsatÜ. %yaatca ivaBa> kuTuMbapQdtImauLo kÜNaI vaDIlamaaNaUsa samajaavaayalaa
nasato AaiNa Asalao trI eokNyaacaI tyaarI nasato %yaamauLo lagna to divorce ha p`vaasa idvasaoMidvasa CÜTa vhayalaa laagalaa Aaho AaiNa hllaI divorce laa stigma nasalyaamauLo tÜ maaga- isvakarayalaapNa puYkLaMcaI tyaarI Asato. divorce GaoNyaa[tkI Krca vaoL AalaI Aaho ka (acaa ivacaarpNa puYkLda kolaa jaat naahI. p`%yaokacyaa AayauYyaat
puYkLda Asao p`saMga yaotat pNa %yaavar pUNa-pNao ivacaar k$na inaNa-ya GaoNaM AavaXyak Asat.
Tinbaktoo maI tulaa sallaa doNyaasaazI ilaihla naahI pNa AajaUbaajaUlaa jao kahI phayalaa imaLt %yaaba_la ivacaar
vya> kolao Aahot
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Roz
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| | Tuesday, August 17, 2004 - 7:01 pm: |
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tumhalaa ek klpnaa saaMgato.
sagaL\yaa gaÜYTI navara baayakÜ laa ekmaokaXaI baÜlata yaot naahIt. kahI vaoLa Aa^kvaD- vaaTt Asato. madt
pNa baahorcaI Gaota yaot naahI. AXaavaoLI maI maaJyaa navaryaalaa maola pazvat Asao. AaiNa malaa jao
sarL baÜlata Aalao nasato to %yaalaa ilahuna maI maaJaa p`a^blaoma saÜDvalaa. baGaa tumhalaa Asao krta
yaoto ka Æ
ra^Ja
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U said initially u did get along well, think what did u do differently at that time. If possible, repeat the sequence. Think again ekda naat tuTlaMM kI maga hatatUna sagaLca sauTUna jaat maga hLhLNyaat kahIca pa^nT nasatÜ. yaabaabatIt
Aaca- mhNato to malaa pTtÊ jaovaZ vaya vaaZt tovaZ tDjaÜD krNa iknvaa dusaáyaasaazI Aaplyaa savayaI badlaNa
mauXkIla hÜt. pNa ho TaLta yaoNyaasaarK nasatca Asa naahI. kuzlaahI TÜkacaa inaNa-ya GaoNyaapuvaI- Kup
ivacaar AaiNa jaÜDIdar %yaacao ima~maO~INaI yaancyaaXaI cacaa- krayalaa hvaI. kdaicat %yaancaI madt maÜlaacaI
zrola. ra^JacaI klpnaahI caangalaI Aaho. jar kahI maojar p`a^blaoma nasaola tr sauKasauKI iDvaÜsa-cyaa
BaanagaDIt pDU nayao ha p`amaaiNak sallaa²
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Timbaktoo
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| | Thursday, August 19, 2004 - 5:38 am: |
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Let me clear one point -- I thought we were getting along fine -- turned out that he was just pretending --
Arch -- Well said. I think exactly that's our problem. I don't think he will change his mind even if his parents ask him to.
One more imp. thing - He wants to separate I still want us to work on it together. Try counselor etc. But he is not ready to listen. I started this BB to open the subject for discussion. There might be so many girls who go through simillar situations and still don't utter a word about it.
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Eliza
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| | Thursday, August 19, 2004 - 1:27 pm: |
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TT, I excatly know what you mean. I have been through my share of differences with my husband. It is very important that you are forgiving and understanding in marriage but both parties need to show the same qualities. Gone are the old days when everybody would tell you 'baaichyaa jaatilaa sagala sahan karavach lagata'. if your husband is not showing any of these qualities, then he really needs consouling and not just for marriage issue.
How does he interact with his friends and family? does he have any close friends? is he passionate about some things? what are the things u two really enjoyed together? These are some of the things you two should find answers for. It will tell you if its really worth taking a chance with each other.
How are your parents taking it? like roz said, you should find out a way of communication that fits you the best and it could be through your friends or parents also. Everything is possible if there is a willingness to make things work. IF he is not willing then there is nothing you can do about it as he is not even ready to get help. Time may be the only solution. How much patience you have left now?
He may not be as independent as you think...few days without you and he will realize how precious you are.
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Ppk
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| | Wednesday, August 25, 2004 - 5:51 pm: |
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All husbands and wives have differences, ha issue itka cut and dried nahi aahe. I agree with Arch and Eliza, ki vay motha zaala ki adjust karaayla traas hoto, pan its not impossible.
Shevti, is the relationship worth the effort, ha prashna pratyekani pratyekachach sodvaaycha asto.
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tumhI mhNata tsaa AnauBava malaahI Aalaolaa Aaho. maI pNa yau.esa. maQyao lagna hÜ]na rhayalaa Aalao.
navara maa~ [qao gaolaI 5 vaYao- rhat hÜta. %yaamauLo tÜ tD\jaÜD krNyaacyaa BaangaDIt pDayalaaca tyaar
navhta. saahijakca malaa yaacaa ~asa Jaalaa. ervaI nakÜ Asalao tr maaNausa TaLtÜ pNa navaáyaalaa ksao
TaLNaar Æ AaiNa tsao kÉna hI samasyaa sauTlaI nasatI.
maIca navaáyaalaa qaÜDa vaaTpNaa svatakDo Gao]na saaMigatlao kI 34Â maaJaa ha saMsaar ekTIcaa naahI.
mau#ya mhNajao malaa Gar naahI mhNauna maI tuJyaa GarI Aalao naahI.34Â
eokayalaa kTu vaaTto pNa jyaalaa jaI BaaYaa samajaola tsaoca baÜlaavao laagato. Aata navara baraca sauQaarlaa
Aaho.
raQaa
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Timbaktoo
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| | Thursday, August 26, 2004 - 5:41 am: |
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Sorry gals for late posting ...
Eliza, well said. He does have some friends but it's not like he calls them regularly. He is passionate about sports, excersice and few more things. But I don't think he has/had good relationship with his family members.
Anyway, in my case I am from very well knit family - cousins,uncles, aunts, grandparents etc. but his family is at distant from everybody.
Radhika I have tried something similar not exactly these sentences but I have tried. Right now he just wants the dissolution few family members have tried to discourage him but he is not ready to change/listen. I have lost my interest in trying as I have tried so many things. If a person says after 6 years of living together that I don't have feelings for you then it's hard to swallow.
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Bee
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| | Thursday, August 26, 2004 - 6:12 am: |
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TT-- u should just allow urself to be alone and to him too. That might give u some space to think about u & ur future alone ahead! I really mean it.. my sis's husband wasn't treating her well.. that too even during her pregnancy. My parents brought my sister at home & allowed her to live life like a unmarreid girl. After 3 years of long seperation, her husband came and said it was his mistake and henceforth he will not torture his wife. Then the kid and both of them went back to their home and stayed happily thereafter. But the long span of 3 yrs was really difficult for my whole family. But the consequences has taken good result. So All is well if the End is well!
I suggest u try such kind of tricks which will satisfy the present need. If he wants to stay away from u, give him some chance. But don't make any mistake of giving him divorse, even if he wants. Then why the hell he married. Marriage is not for spoiling each other's life. Generally society does not have good views about divorsed people.. it may sound bad to you but yes its a fact!
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Ppk
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| | Thursday, August 26, 2004 - 1:03 pm: |
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Bee, Eliza TT, I am new here, (this is my second post)I understand what Bee is suggesting, pan tyaat risk pan tevdhich aahe. Tumhi mhantaay tasa what if eveything does not "end well". Hay bagh TT, saglyaat important mhanje tu swatahala guilty feel karoon gheoo nakos. ashya goshti hot astaat, tya aplya babtit hotaat he durdaivach, pan mhanun niraash nahi vhyaycha. Consider all your options, keep your confidence and then take the appropriate decision. ithe tula khup support aani sahanubhuti milel, pan decision shevti tujha aahe, aani you are the one who will have to live with it.
Aikaayla kadu vatta and I am sorry me aajun saumya bhaashet nahi lihu shakle, kadachit majhya lihinyachya style mule tasa vaatat asel, pan bhavana lakshaat ghe, ti sangnyachi paddhat kahihi asli tari.
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T,
If husband is saying no feelings for u .... then its serious i guess. Why dont u try counselling ?
Radhika
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one more thing,
does he want change in u ? urs some habits or some behaviour or dressing or talking or anything he had asked u to change before ? Though its not possible to change whole things as god made every person with special charaterstics . But give it a try. do little things which he likes. change urself a little and see if it gives a positive result?
But dont blame urself if this does not work out. Its quite possible that u would have tried it before.
Good luck
Radha
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nakÜ mhNaUsa Aaplao
jao naa Aahot tuJao
%yaaMcyaa hatI idlao
AayauYya xaNaat ivaJao
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Roz
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| | Wednesday, September 01, 2004 - 9:55 pm: |
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tt,
u said u r looking for a lawyer and dont have a job. How u r gonna manage the things ?
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Tulip
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| | Thursday, September 02, 2004 - 3:51 am: |
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>>>If a person says after 6 years of living together that I don't have feelings for you then it's hard to swallow.
TT.. maI tuJyaa poxaa vayaanao AnauBavaanao lahana AahoÊ pNa tuJa varca vaa@ya vaacaUna [tkca saaMgaavasa vaaTt
kI Aga relationship sometimes just dies ho sahna krayalaa Kup kzINa jaat pNa ijat@yaa lavakr tu ho accept krXaIla ittkca tuJyaa dRiYTnao saÜp jaala.
AXaI maolaolaI naatI puZo Kocat naoNyaat kahIca Aqa- nasatÜ. get up and get on with yr life ek naivana pana ]laT AayauYyaacao AaiNa maagao na baGata sarL puZo jaayalaa laaga.
AXaI Cana jamalaolaI naatI ka tuTtatÆ ka saukuna jaatat (aMvar ikithI ivacaar kolaasa trI kahI ]pyaÜga
hÜNaar naahI. Every relationship bloom to it's fullest and then just wither away. kahI BaagyavaMtaMcyaa AayauYyaat ha bloom kayamacaa iTktÜhI.. pNa bahutok vaoLa tÜ kahI vaYaa-MtcaÊ kahI mahInyaaMtcaÊ kQaI kQaI tr kahI idvasaaMtca
AÜsartÜ. bahr AÜsaÉna gaolaoyaa naa%yaaMmaQaUna vaoLIca baahor pDNao ]<amaÊ karNa iktIhI p`ya%na kolao
trI naatI prt phIlyaasaarKI hÜt naahIt..
All the best
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Timbaktoo
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| | Thursday, September 02, 2004 - 4:42 am: |
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Thanks everybody for all your support and suggestions.
Bee --Thanks for the suggestion but, it's very hard in US to just stay married for sake of marriage. He can file papers and if I don't sign then he can get away with whatever he wants. I want to be in this relationship but I don't want it because of sympathy, pitty. I have whole life ahead of me and I am not ready to waste it anymore just waiting for him to come along. I am tired of doing that. I know it's hard to accept by older genration but I deserve to be happy.
Radhika -- He said he doesn't want to take counselling as it's not going to help at all. His thinking is counselor can't make me love you. We have exhausted every avenue of reconcilation. I never dresses provocatively, never did anything wrong neither did he. We just never clicked. I guess this is side effect of arranged marriage.
Roz -- I don't have anser to that question at this point. But I believe in God more than anything. He will get me out of this.
Tulip -- Well said. Till couple of months back I was trying hard to save the whole thing but as of now I jsut want peace of mind and that's it. I think I deserve happyness in life.
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I agree with tulip too. where is the time to hate ? when there is so little time to love!
u r on right way TT!
good luck
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T\yauilap tUJao mhNaNao pTtoya.
maaNasaacyaa marNaapoxaa naa%yaacao marNa AiQak @laoXa doto.
pNa iTMba@Tu AXaavaoLI AaplaI frfT k$na GaoNyaapoxaa
XaaMtpNao ivacaar k$na inaNa-ya GaoNao yaÜgya.
malaa kLtoya ho saaMgaNao far saÜpo Aaho. pNa
laÜk kaya mhNatIla ha ivacaar tU ekTIca krNaar
naato saaMBaaLayacaa p`ya%na tU ekTIca krNaar
AaiNa ~asa sauwa tulaa ekTIlaaca hÜNaar
tU mhNatosa tuJao kuTUMba ekdma baaMQalaolao Aho
tr to laÜk tuJyaa pazIXaI na@kIca ]Bao rhatIla.
]laT tuJyaa %yaa navaáyaalaaca naMtr Gar AaiNa maaNasaaMcao mah%va kLola.
BaavanaaMcaa mahapUr Aalaa trI tÜ AÜsartÜ
%yaacyaaXaI JagaDNyaapoxaa mah%vaacao Asato to %yaat iTkUna rhaNao.
AjaUna ek
tU tuJyaa poronT\sa XaI baÜlalaIsa ka
I know I am not providing any kind of help that you have asked for, as I am not in a position to do so, but believe me, genuinely I pray for you. I am sure you will get going well. Just be strong. And from the very beginning keep in mind that you and only you and no one else have the capability to defeat you. Don't allow anyone, not even yourself, to do so. Best of luck!
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ho ilahayalaa Kr mhNajao ksaotrIca vaaTt AahoÊ pNa TT, if you are seriously considering divorce, then start thinking in terms of what is mine is MINE. AaplyaakDo lagna mhNajao what is yours is mine (a QartI var Asto. I have seen a couple of cases where "this object is mine, this object is yours" (a gaÜXTIna va$na Kup Baa.nDNa JaalaI. XaovaTI khIhI kÉna paT\na-r laa duKvaayaca hI Baavanaa AiQakÊ dissolution of marriage ha hotU kmaIÊ Asao Jaalao. tovha take care ga.
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Arch
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| | Thursday, September 02, 2004 - 6:10 pm: |
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TT, tulaa US maQyao emotional AaiNa financial support Aaho kaÆ AXaavaoLI Aaplyaa laÜkaMcaI KUp jaÉrt Asato. maI kahI madt krNyaasaarKI AsalaI tr malaa email kr. sagaLo inaNa-ya naIT ivacaar k$na GaoXaIlaca.
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Mahek
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| | Thursday, September 02, 2004 - 6:55 pm: |
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Dont waste time in discussions. Get rid of him!
otherwise u will start to hate urself for living with such man!
everyone has "bad patch" in life.
how bout ur parents ? Can u go back to india ? or want to live in us only?
its hard time for u. take care.
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Timbaktoo
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| | Thursday, September 02, 2004 - 11:45 pm: |
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People there are some things that I can't disclose here, rather do not want to do that for some practicle purposes. I am planning my future. Let's see what comes out of this ituation.
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Girishw
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| | Friday, September 10, 2004 - 4:25 pm: |
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Yours is not a new experience in the story of day to day life.
May be I have experienced a similar situation, what is happenning between you and yours husband.
But , Here is a saner answer...
SAVE YOUR MARRIAGE.... just bite the bullet.
Did u ever get to see the "Big Thing "
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Eliza
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| | Friday, September 10, 2004 - 5:52 pm: |
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ppl, i appreicate the wishes and advise we have given to TT. pan aapan teela 'get rid of him' kiva 'save your marriage' sangana kitpat yogya aahe? we have not walked in her shoes. what we are telling her is our own perception of her story. she might be at a very critical stage emotionally and saying these things can make her balance go either way.
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Raatrani
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| | Friday, September 10, 2004 - 6:50 pm: |
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TT,
tulaa kuzlaahI sallaa doNaM iktpt barÜbar Aaho Æ ek tr tuhI sagaLM saaMgau Xakt naahIsa. AaiNa dusarM
mhNajao jyaacaM jaLt %yaalaaca kLtM. tulaa Baavainak AaQaarca hvaa Asaola tr [qao p`%yaokjaNa vaogaL mat
doNaar to tulaa pTolacaM Asa naahI. ]gaaca manastap hÜla. yaatuna kahIca saaQaNaar naahI.
I am not being rude its just fact.
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Aaftaab
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| | Monday, October 18, 2004 - 6:37 pm: |
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Too little is known to give any kind of suggestions.
We don't even know his side of the story - he may not be that bad afterall... we need to know the reasons why he doesn't have feelings for her after so much time..
Fault may be with her - or with him - or with fate which brought them together..
I think, apart from giving little words of encouragement, there is hardly anything that we can do.. It's TT's life, she has to weigh the pluses and minuses of staying or separating.
That's my personal opinion.
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Sweety
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| | Sunday, December 12, 2004 - 7:14 am: |
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TT,
ek sangu,me ajun lagna nahi anubhawle,pan prem anubhawte ahe,pan lagna aso wa prem apan kuthe tari adjust hey kelech pahije,.
may be tu US madhe rahun kiwwa tikade jawun khup bold ,swtachi mate khare tharawnari jast jhali asnar,kiwwwa tula tujhi matee badlaychi nastil,ani hya paristhitit tujya navryala tula sodayche ahe,,,,ashya welela tu badal,, agadi manapasun tho sangel tech kaar,sagle jaag kamawshil,pan navra harawshil,pls ase karu nakos.khup badal swatahala.to sangel te kaar.waklis kahi welela tari chalel,pan tyala ek diwas nakki janwel tujhi kimmat.ani vishwas thew dewa war jast.tyanech bhetawle na tula tujya navryala toch tharwel kaay te ,fakt shant raha.ani ho tula jamat nasel wakayla tar koni tari tujya maherche ase shodh ki he or she will do it 4 u.pan te manus tujya age che hawe...kiwwa relative peksha friendship hee jast asawi tumchyat...ok getting me naa.pls be binded.i will definately pray.kahi hi madat lagli mail me.bye all the best.
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Tulip
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| | Sunday, December 12, 2004 - 8:10 am: |
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kÜNa mhNatÜ gaDkáyaaMcyaa isaMQaUcao ivacaar kalabaa( Jaalao Æ :-P
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Sweety
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| | Tuesday, December 14, 2004 - 2:09 pm: |
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thxs tulip,
i dont know chesta kelis kaa kautuk, pan they r my thoughtys and they will remain. yachya shivay jaag nahi chalat.its a fact and we all have to accept.tt chya jagewar aple konitari gharatle thewun bagh,jamel majyasarkha vichar karayla.
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TT,
Konatahi manus purna vait kiva purna changala nasato... Devane pratyekat kahi na kahi kami thevali asatech.. so right now start finding good things abt him.. Tyachyashi jara tyachya manasarakha vag..Tula hyat kami pana vatayachi garaj nahi.. baryach mulanmadhye male ego asato..tyana vatata ki tyana bayakochi bilkul garaj nahi.. aani hi goshta te sarakha bolun pan dakhavatat.. tyana thoda sambhalun ghyayacha..Pan jar to ekhadya babatit chukat asel totally tar ho la ho mhananyat pan kahi artha nahi...Aani ho 6 varshachya sansara nantar ekamekanbaddal bhavana nasana he shakyach nahi... To he je kahi bolat asel te kadachit ragachya bharat bolat asel.
Mi he sarva comments detey he tu var mention kelelya goshtinvar.. hyat tumache ajun kahi personal issues asateel tar i guess u only can judge the entire situation.
Pan ek lakshat thev "todana khup sopa asata jodana maha kathin"
I wish you all the best for ur future...
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Maetrin
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Hi Timbaktoo,sorry about the whole mess, u seem like a strong person.
my sister is having problems in her marriage.the husband is a little moodi,and sometimes seems like he doesn't care.i also feel he is on a verge of having a drinking problem,although it doesn't seem excessive.it was a love marriage and she still has feelings for him,so it's even harder as we cannot even suggest that she leave her.she recently gave birth to a baby,so it seems an impossible solution.
dagDaa khaali haath sapaDNe mhanje kaay te attaa kaLtay ga!but she is not even a strong person like u seem to be and we all are worried.
bee,i liked ur advise,try karaaylaa harkat naahii.successful zhala kii nahii te kaLviin.
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