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Zakki
Saturday, March 30, 2002 - 3:34 pm:

far kzINa Aaho. %yaasaazI Aa vaiDlaaMnaI ho purtopNaI manaat ibaMbavalao paihjao kI Aaplyaa maulaa maulaIcyaa saMsaarat AapNa pDNyaacaI kaihca garja naahI. Aamacyaa ipZItlyaa FIL/MIL nao Aamacyaa saMsaarat svatÁlaa pUNa-pNao JaÜkUna idlaoÊ %yaamauLo naa QaD to sauKI JaalaoÊ naa AamhI² tr maI Asaa p`ya%na krona kI malaa kuzlyaahI p`karcyaa AaQaaracaI garja maaJyaa maulaa maulaI kDUna pDU nayaoÊ maga maI svatM~ ina to svatM~. mhNajao to Aalao kI Aamhalaa AanaMd hÜtÜÊ mhNaUna AamhI %yaaMnaa p`omaanao baÜlavaUÊ pNa to yao} Xaklao naahIt tr ka vagaOro na ivacaartaÊ zIk Aaho mhNaUna Aaplao Aaplao ]VÜga krt basaU. AaiNa tohI %yaaMnaa AavaDt Asaola tovhZaca saMbaMQa AamacyaaXaI zovatIla. baGaU KrÜKr kaya jamato to. saudOvaanao saÝ. cao ih AgadI tssaoca mat Aaho.

Limboni
Saturday, March 30, 2002 - 4:33 pm:

zakki, tumhi aadhich lihilet. mala mazya pudhachya postingnantar tumache mat kinva je aata FIL/MIL role madhe jau ghatalet/gele aahet tyanche mat vicharayache hote. tumhi vayachi 25-30 varshe ithe rahilat, mule ithe vadhali mahanun tumhala tase tharavun takane sope gele. bharatat asatat tar itaka parakhad vichar tumhi/tumachya sou. karu shakalya asatyach ase vatate ka?

maze aanakhi ek observation aahe. swati tu mhanates tyapramane mulinchi manasikata vagaire kaahi anshi khare aahehi. pan tyachabarobar mala ase vatate, we should also look in to the reason behind their(in-laws) behaviour.

junya pidhitali manase manat je asel te othawar aananari asatilach ase nahi. rather je kharokharach vatate te bolalyane problems sutayala madat hoil ase vatun ghenari hi pidhi nave. tyamule vayoman/mulanche javal nasane/ kinva asunsuddha tase na vatane yatun ti thodi insecure asatat. tya insecure feelingmaule anekada ashi manase ajibat soyiskar nasalele todage suchavu lagatat/te na manale ki apale koni aikat nahi amhala kimmat nahi ase vatu lagate. apale koni aikat naahi asa grah karun ghetat & tyatalya tyat gharat baherun aalelya manasavar khapar fodane imotionally thodese sope asate. hi psycology lakshat gheun kahi upay-yojana karat aali tar mala vatate ha problem sutane thodasa shakya hoil.

Swatid
Monday, April 01, 2002 - 6:32 pm:

Limboni tujhe vichar barobar ahet. Loka aaplya manat kaay nakki ahe tey sangat nahit. Tasa tyani bolun dakhavla tar khup soppa jaeel. Pun ithe parat ek prashna padto, MIL ani FIL aaplya manatle bolun dakhavtil ekvel, pun DIL ni asa bolun dakhavlela tyana patel ka?
Ithe TV var ek show hoto, tumhi sarvanni pahila aselach, Everybody loves Raymond, tya sitcom madhe tyani hya goshticha ek joke mhanun upyog kelela ahe, pun aaplya gharagharatun hi satyakatha ahe. And its not funny.
Tithe pun ase disun eyete ki sasu manatla bolun dakhavtey, mulavar daDpuN anun aaplyamnasarkhe karun ghete. Mulachya manachi odhataan pun dakhavli ahe. Parat tyacha bhau asto, to kasa Ray chya baaykochya vatine vichar karu shakto he pahayla miLta.
Mala asa kityekda vaTTa, aaplyala kaLtay pun vaLat nahi asa pech ahe. MIL and FIL hyana kityek vela jaaNiv hotach asnaar ki apan he kartoy te barobar nahiye, kinva hyacha aaplya DIL kinva mulala tras hoil, kinva tyanchyat bhandan suru hoil. pun tyana behaviour badalta yet nahi, karan tyanche aai vadil kinva sasu saasre asech vaaglet tyanchyashi.
Kityek vela sunela vatat asel , ki aapli aai asti hya jaagi tar apan itke rigid rahilo asto ka? and she know she would have been more flexible and understanding. But again the little thought creeps in, mich ka understanding dakhvu? tya mothya ahet..tyana kalat nahi ka?
Purvi he fakt sasu / saasre ani suna hyanchyat ha vaad asaycha. tyat madhlya madhe navroji adkun jaayche.
Ata limited family mule mhana vagaire muliche aai vadil mulikade astaat and ha vaad hou shakto. Navryala sasu saasryachya kahi goshti paTat nahit, mag tyache padsaad gharat umaTtaat. tensions vadhtaat.
Navra pun ani konajaval complaint karnaar? to baaykola saangto, baaykola vaatnaar aaplya aai vadilanchi ha complaint karto... asach vadhat jaata.
Hya pidhit he problems surface zalet, kahi junya problems chi solutions nighali ahet (i hope). Kahi varshanni mazi pidhi sasu saasryanche role dharan karel. Tya vela hyatla kiti athavta ani kiti amlaat aaNto tey vichar karnyasarkha ahe.

Jojo
Friday, April 12, 2002 - 4:43 pm:

Lokaho,

Navin law pass jhaalaa tar sasu-sasre (tyache ani tiche barr kaa!), 1 mahinyapekshaa jasta rahuch shaknaar naahit....this might prove beneficial for so many people like swatid - naa rhogaa baasa naa bajaogaI baasaUrI .... :-)

Ekjan
Friday, April 12, 2002 - 6:54 pm:

AaiNa maga delivery saazI ikMvaa maulaaMnaa saaMBaaLNyaasaaqaI Aa vaiDlaaMnaa [kDo baÜlaavaNaayaa-McaIhI pMcaat hÜNaar :-) :-)

Madhoo
Monday, January 06, 2003 - 2:13 am:

namaskar mandalli....
jo jo mala nahi vatat tasa kahi law vaigare pass hoil....
majhe hi sasu sasre aug madhe aale..tevha ttyana 6 mahne dile... it all depends on the mood of the official sitting there..

Milindaa
Monday, January 06, 2003 - 2:46 pm:

Medha, welcome back ..

Madhoo
Monday, January 06, 2003 - 9:00 pm:

arey milind .. i had to reactivate my account....

Neeta
Wednesday, April 23, 2003 - 5:14 pm:

Namaskar Mandali,

Mi hya boardvar agdich navin ahe. Pan hya posts pahilya ani kahi lihavese watale mhanun ajach login ghetale. Kharetar ha thread ata itka active nahi, pan anyway...
Maze sasu sasare ithe don varshanpurvi yeun gele. Tevha mi full time nokri chalu astanahi tyanche khup kele. Itke ki mazhya sasubaina don mahine rahundekhil dishwasher kasa lavaycha mahit nahi, cooking range mahit nahi, ani microwave suddha fakt duparcha chaha garam karun ghyayla. te zopayche suddha amchya bedvar, ani amhi zopaycho sleeping bag var. fakt ekda garbage khoop bharale te tyanni takale, tehi mazhya navryala titake avadale nahi. yashivay tyanna sutti gheun disneyland, san diego, las vegas, grand canyon ani shivay ithale thikane weekendla, SFO, monterey, mystery spot, tech museum he ahech. yashivay mi ghumi asate tyanchyashi bolat nahi, tomane marate asehi nahi, mala tase vagatach yet nahi, ani vagavese vatatahi nahi.
tar aika mandali tyanchya takrari majhyavishayi.
pahili takrar kinva minus point asa mazhyabaddal, ki tyanchi ek putan sun ahe (bhavachi sun sasuchya) tar ti mazhya peksha sundar asun doctor ahe. tiche baba hi far mothya postvar asun tyancha bangala ahe. tar hya babtit tyanchya bhavani and vahinine nashib kadhale tase tyanche zale nahi. (Hya vahini nitya nemane dar saha mahine US la yeun sune kade roj polyansakat sagali kame karit asatat. ani suneche maherche lok ahe ki he lok tyanchi badadast thevnyat guntun jatat.)
sasryanchi takrar ashi ki mi serious reading karit nasun mazhe vichar pragalbh nahit.
mi far kamvat nasun tyanchya mulala tyamule financial problems ahet asa tyanni apla apanach samaj karun ghetlela ahe. baryach vela tase kahi nahi ase sangunahi tyanna patat nahi, va hi gosht tya sarva natevaik mandalina sangat asatat.
itaranna te asehi sangatat ki amche navrabaikonche patat nahi, va especially mazhya navryala mazhyabaddal khas apulki nahi.
saddhya tyanche tumane chalu ahe ki amhi home ghyave, ka tar tyancha putana jo ithe rahato tyanne ghetale ahe. yashivay mule kadhi vaigere tumne asatech.
jar mi kahi vastu ghetali, changle kapade, lipstick whatever, tar "he mala kase milale nahi, majhe ayushya kase halakhiche gele" he bollyashivay mazhi sasu rahat nahi. yacha mazhyavar itka parinam zhala ahe ki mi attaparyant swatasathi jewellery kinva itar kahihi fancy gheu shaklele nahi. asha khup goshti ahet.
tar ekun mala hya prakarabaddal ase vatate, ki parents na apan je categorize karato, ke te utarvayache ahet, tyanna ithe jamat nahi, we are the ones in control ani apan tyanna sambhalun ghyayala pahije tase kahi pratyek babtit nasate. ji personality strong ani dominating asate ti dusryacha faida ghete, mag ti sasu aso ki sun. jar agadi tumhi lottery lagnyaitke lucky asal tar donhi baju balanced vagu shaktat, nahitar nahi. tar koni ya bhramat rahu nahe he tyanna comfortable kele ke jhale. tyancha swabhav asel titkech sukh te bhogtil ani titkech sukh/kautuk te tumhala detil. nahitar takrarich karat bastil. tar aple sukh apan dusrikade shodhane uttam. aplya saunskaracha bhag mhanun tyanchyasathi jamel titke karave, ani sarvat mahatvache mhanje shakya titkya lavkar te visrun jave. ani tyanchya kadun kahi apeksha tar thevuch naye. tyanni kase vagave yacha khal karane tar sarvat nirarthak, karan tumhi te tyanna tar sanguch shakanar nahi, ani sangitale tari sath sattar varshachi manase ata badalnar nahit.

Storvi
Wednesday, April 23, 2003 - 5:25 pm:

>>tyancha swabhav asel titkech sukh te bhogtil>> Well said...

Maitreyee
Wednesday, April 23, 2003 - 5:35 pm:

tar ekun mala hya prakarabaddal ase vatate, ki >>>>>>>>neeta,ithun pudhache tuze vichar agadi patale.tuzya in-laws chya anubhava baddal jast kahi lihit nahi..ashaach nahi pan samantar cases mihi pahilelya ahet..tevha he kharay ki theoroticaly kiteehee aadarshvaadaachyaa gappa maralya tari jo athavaa jee tyaa aubhavaatoon jaate,tilaach te du:kh kaLat asate!!

Limboni
Wednesday, April 23, 2003 - 5:54 pm:

nita, ekadam borobar lihile aahes. 100% khare aahe. tyatun tu je 'tyanni kase vagave yacha khal karane tar sarvat nirarthak, karan tumhi te tyanna tar sanguch shakanar nahi, ani sangitale tari sath sattar varshachi manase ata badalnar nahit.' ha zala taratamyacha bhag.

va. pu. kalenche partner ki ya bhumika samajun ghyayala madat karate.

Jojo
Thursday, April 24, 2003 - 2:31 pm:

naIt tuJao AnauBava vaacaUna vaaT vaaTlao
[tko k$nahI evhD\yaa tËarI saÜsaNao ho kahI saÜPpo kama naahI

maaJaI ek maO~INa Aaho tI sasaUcyaa TÜmaNyaaMnaa kMTaLUna
saasaUXaI baÜlaonaaXaIca JaalaI. dÜGaIhI ekmaokIMXaI baÜlat naahIt.
tkoca navho tr saasarcyaa ³naNDaÊ maamao saasaUsaasaro´ %yaadI
LÜkaMXaI doiKla itnao sava- naato tÜDlao.

No one from the in-laws side comes to their home. She doesnt visit anybody from the in-laws side
When she goes to India. The husband fortunately fully supports her decision (though probably does not agree, from the general talks we have once in a while with them abt in-laws in general).

This way, my friend is at peace at least thats what she thinks!
Not sure if the path she chose is the right one, but it definitely leads to less quarrels, and headches.
Any takes ?

Arch
Thursday, April 24, 2003 - 3:49 pm:

Aaja Ann Landers maQyao (avar Cana p~ Aala Aaho. %yaa saasaUnao ilaihla Aaho tI p~ naohomaI saunaocyaa naavaanao pazvato. ³ ho saaMgaayaca karNa kahI saasaU saasaro maulaalaa office cyaa p<yaavarpNa p~ pazvaNaaro eoklao Aahot´. sagaL\yaa baabatIt maulaalaa ivacaarNyaaeovajaI saunaoXaI saMvaad saaQato. Aqaa-t saUnahI reciprocate krtoca. (amauLo saunaocao AaiNa itcao saMbaMQa Ôar caaMgalao Aahot. AaplaI maula maÜzI hÜtIla AaiNa AaplyalaapNa saunaa jaava yaotIla toMvha Aaplyaalaa jyaa gaÜYTIMmauLo ~asa Jaalaa %yaa Aaplyaalaa TaLta Aalyaa paihjaot.

maulagaI navaIna Garat AalaolaI Asato AXaavaoLI sauÉvaatIlaaca itlaa navaIna Gar Aapla vaaTla paihjao (acaI jabaabadarI maaJyaamato nai@kca saasarcyaakDcyaaMnao ]calalaI paihjao. Aqaa-t (a sagaL\yaalaa saunaonahI positive response idlaa paihjao.

Keya
Thursday, April 24, 2003 - 3:54 pm:

ja,ÜjaÜÊ
tuJyaa maOi~NaIcaa AnauBava @laoXadayak na@kIca Aaho. It shows how much she must have suffered.. but I don't think this is the way that she should handle it. maaNasao tÜDNao ho jaÜDNyaapoxaa KUp saÜpo Aaho. your friend needs to be more strong. svatÁvar ivaXvaasa zovaUna Aaplao vaagaNao Aaplyaa sad\sadivavaokbauiQdlaa pTt Asalyaasa va AapNa Aaplyaa vaagaNyaanao kuNaacao nauksaana krt naahI ho pTlyaasaÊ saasaUbaa jyaa gaÜYTIMvaÉna TÜmaNao maart AsatIla itkDo sarL dula-xa krayacao. karNa eKaVa gaÜYTIlaa tumhI jaovhZI ikMmat dotaÊ tovhZIca %yaa gaÜYTIcaI ikMmat Asato. maa~ ho krtanaa Aaplyaa kt-vyaat ksaUr krayacaI naahI. tuJyaa maOi~NaIlaa navaáyaacaI saaqa Aaho hI KUp caaMgalaI gaÜYT Aaho pNa %yaacyaa BaavanaaMcaa Aadr zovaUnaÊ qaÜDo pDto Gao]naÊ vaoLp`saMgaI kÜDgao banaUnaÊ maaNasao jaÜDUna zovalaI tr itcyaaba_la navaáyaalaahI KUp Aadr vaaTola. savaa-t maÜzI gaÜYT mhNajao itcaa saasarcyaa maMDLIMXaI rÜja saMpk- yaot naahI. jaovha BaoTayacao tovha vaoL inaBaavaUna nyaayacaI. ho sava- saÜpo naahI. yaat navaáyaacaI saaqa far maÜlaacaI Aaho. eKaVa duba-la xaNaI %yaanao saava$na Gao]na saaqa idlaI pahIjao.
maaJaI Aa naohmaI ek gaÜYT saaMgatoÊ GaratlaI s~I hI tMbaUcaa maQalaa KaMba Asato. yaa KaMbaavarca tMbaUcaa saara Baar AsatÜ. jar ha KaMba kÜsaLlaa tr sagaLa tMbaU kÜsaLtÜ. AnauBavaanao malaahI ho pTlao Aaho. yaat svatÁcaa svaaiBamaanaÊ sva%va yaalaa zoca pÜhcaU Xakto pNa XaovaTI Aaplyaaca maaNasaaMsaazI qaÜDosao sahna krayalaa kaya hrkt AahoÆ iXavaaya yaa vaagaNyaanao maulaaMsamaÜrhI ek caaMgalao ]dahrNa zovaU XaktÜ. Aqaa-t ho maaJao ivacaar Jaalao...

Yogibear
Thursday, April 24, 2003 - 4:04 pm:

Keya: tu idlaolyaa tMbau caa KaMba hI ]pmaa ikMbahunaa %yaa maagacaI ivacaar sarNaI Kup sauroK AaiNa saKÜla Aaho. (a var maagao maI ek sauroK laoK vaacalaolaa........... :-)

Mukund
Thursday, April 24, 2003 - 5:13 pm:

neeta

tujha anubhav vachla. manat ek vichar aala rag manu nakos, he sarva hot astana tujha navra kai karat hota? shantachittane bhagat hota? majhya aaine (majhe vadil lahanpanich varle) jar majhya baykoshi ase wagle tar me aaila tambi deeen ki ase rahayache asel tar majhyakade rahayala yeoo nako. tujha navara agdich shamloo disto. sorry. pan tyane khambirpane tula saath deli pahije. too kam hi kartes ani gharatlehi bhagtes. tujhya navryala tujhi kasarat kalayala havi. joparyant mulga aplya aai ani wadilana ase wagu det rahto toparyant ashe aai ani wadil asech wagat rahanr( sagalya mulanche ai wadl ashe nastat)tatparya kay tar tujhaya navryane boolchatpana sodoon khambir vayala hawe. majhya spshta pana baddal maffi magto.

Keya
Thursday, April 24, 2003 - 5:37 pm:

Mukund,
Neetachya babatit tichya navaryachee kiti chuk aahe maheet nahee. kadachit aselhee. pan tyamule tumhee je mhanata ki tyachya jagi jar tumhee asata tar aaila tambee dilee asatee. he vakya khatakale. visheshtaha tumachya aaine vadilanchya mage tumhala vadhavale aahe tevhatar jastach. bayakola pathimba dene visheshtaha tichee kasarat disat asatana hee changalee goshta aahe. pan tyasathee navaryanehee tyachya aaivadilanshee tambee na deta diplomatically vagayala shikale pahije.

joparyant mulga aplya aai ani wadilana ase wagu det rahto toparyant ashe aai ani wadil asech wagat rahanr>>
pan ha sandesh aaivadilanna vegalya, soumya marganehee pochovata yeto. aaivadilanshee bhandan karun ha tidha sutato ase tumhala vatate ka? tyapeksha baykola gharkamaat madat, tichyashee hasun khelun vagane, tan sail karayacha prayatna karane, tichee baju uchlun dharane tyach barobar aaivadilansheehee yogyaritya vagane asha goshteene ha tidha sutayala madat hote ase mala vatate. hee dekhil tarevarchee kasarat aahe pan navaryane aai-vadil va baayko sathi karayala harakat nahee...

Mukund
Thursday, April 24, 2003 - 6:32 pm:

keya
tambi ha shabd jara chukicha waprla asen me. pan maza mudda tumchya lakshat ala ka? ani me ase mhanat nahi ki aailach me ase mhanen. jar baikochi chuki disli tar baykolahi me samjaoon sangeen ki kay chook ti karat aahe. ani me baykokadoonhi ashi apeksha kareen ki me koothe chookat asel tar mala tine samjaoon denyacha prayatna kela pahije. lagna mhanaje navara baykoni ekmekkana ase chhok hot asel teva samjawle tarch navara baykoche sambandh dhrud hotil.aaine mala ektine wadhwale hyababtit me aaila jaroor credit deiien pan mhanoon tine chookine wagle tar tila me kahi bolayche nahi he majhya sdetod manala patat nahi. ek gosht changli keli mhanun tumhala dosari gosht chookichi karnyachi mubha milat nahi. chook he chookach aste ani ti nidarshanas annon dene he premachech lakshan aahe. lahanpani jar me chori keli ani majhya aaine tyachyawar pangroon ghatle ani majhi chooki mala dakhwoon deli nahi tar mothepani me sarras darode nahi ka ghalnar? tyamule aaine premane tevach mala majhi chook dakhavane hay prmachech lakshan nave ka? tyamule aaila tichi chhok dakhawnyat mala kahich wawge watat nahi.
ani gosht baykola madat karnyachi. jar doghe navra bayko baher kam karat astil tar navryane baykola madat kelich pahije. pan bayko jar housewife asel tar gosht wegali aahe.

Binali
Thursday, April 24, 2003 - 6:43 pm:

Mukund Ani Keya,
Tumche neetachya babtit views vachale.
Pahilyanda bayko jya takrari karate tya kharya ahet he navaryala patayala have.Ti sangate tyala proof kahich nasate.Ani te jar tyachya absence madhe tichyashi ase vagale astil tar tyacha tichya sagalya takrarinvar vishwas basane kathin ahe.Te jar ka tyachya samor tichyashi goad goad bolat astil ani tyachya mage tila taunts det astil tar ti tari kaay karel.(I have seen one of my friends going through the same situation).

Asha paristhitit neeta needs to be strong enough to beleive that she is right in her place.Nahitar once she looses your peace of mind it is very difficult to come back to normal.
Apan lahan panapasun aplya aaivadilanchya protection kahli vadhalelo asto..tyamule I think everybody is new to this type of criticism ,epecially after getting married.
Tar maan shant theun root cause kay ahe hya criticism cha hyacha andaz ghene he jasta heetache tharel neetachya babtit.

Pan ek goshta khari ki neetane changlya manane je tichya inlaws sathi kele tyache changle faal tila nischitach milel.
Ani mage koni kahika bolena..why should you care.
Have faith in yourself and always do what you feel is right.ani Keya ne lihilya pranamne ki aplya vaganyane konache nuksan tar hot nahina hyachi khabardari ghene.hech tar aplyala shikavale aste lahanpanapasun.

Swaagat_samiti
Thursday, April 24, 2003 - 8:39 pm:

sausvaagatma\ !!!

Neeta,

ihtgaujavar Aaplao haid-k svaagat. ihtgaujatfo- Aaplyaalaa hI CÜTIXaI BaoT .

ihtgaujavarIla sava- ivaBaagaaMnaa AvaXya BaoT Va .

dovanaagarI laoKnaasaazI ]pyau> maaihtI yaoqao pha. dovanaagarI

Nirakar
Thursday, April 24, 2003 - 9:43 pm:

Khare sangu ka, khup rarely tumhala ideal sasu sasre bhetatil, tyamule neeta mahnate tech barobar aahe. Mullana hyacha far problem nastao jar te logically , unbised vichar karat asatil tar. Pan jar te emotionally aai/babancha kinva baykocha ekangi vichar karayal lagale tar paristhiti kadhich sudharat nahi.
Mazi bayako hya babtit hushar aahe ani tine khubi ne he sagale handle kele aahe. Ata parsthi ashi aahe ki mazya peksha te tyanchya suneshich jast bolatat. hayt tine kuthehi katu pana yeo na deta he sagale kele.

Arun
Thursday, April 24, 2003 - 10:14 pm:

Nirakaar: maI tuJyaaXaI 100 T@ko sahmat Aaho. maaJyaa baabatIt maaJyaa baayakÜnao AaiNa Aa vaDIlaaMnaI ekmaokaMnaa saaMBaaLUna Gaotlao Aaho. barocada malaa Asaa p`Xna pDtÜ kI ho maaJao parents Aahot kI maaJyaa baayakÜcao Æ
Aqaa-t ho %yaaMnaI ekmaokaMnaa samajaUna GaotlyaamauLoca Xa@ya Jaalao Aaho.

Ajjuka
Friday, April 25, 2003 - 8:13 am:

>>>fakt ekda garbage khoop bharale te tyanni takale, tehi mazhya navryala titake avadale nahi. <<<
neeta,
tuze ekandar post ni specifically he vakya vachun ase vatate ki tuzya navaryachi tula kuthech madat nahi ki sympathy hi nahi. manya aahe ki sasu-sasare badalanare nahit pan navaryache views badalanyasathi tari tula prayatna kelech pahijet nahitar ayushyabhar tula sosat rahave lagel. it seems like your husband is taking you for granted for each and every responsibility of the household. I think thats wrong. ofcourse if my judgement is wrong then its good.
mala ya babatit keyache mhanane patale.

Sukanyag
Saturday, June 21, 2003 - 7:28 pm:

Maazya olkhiche ek kutumb aahe .Khupp garib parithititun war alele, tyancha mulga pardeshat asto.tyache lagna zalyawar tyachya aai ne mazyashi boltana ekda asa mhanlyache mala aathwat aahe ki sun aalyawar tila lagech pardeshat jayla milala pan aamcha kay aamhi tya sathi khupp kashta kele ani atta tyache fal tila milat aahe.hyawar mi kay bolnar mi nusti tyanchya kade baght basle !

Rajasee
Saturday, June 21, 2003 - 9:49 pm:

mazya eka olakhichya jodapyane ne tyachya aai-vadilanna USA la bolavale firayala mhanun tar. vadilanni dilele uttar ki jhad kadhi swatachi fale khat naste. tevha malaa he vidhan farach vichitra vatale hote pan varachya prasangamule tya vyaktichya vicharanchi udaattataa patali.

Chetu08
Wednesday, October 29, 2003 - 9:14 pm:

Namaskar Mandali,
Mi Maayboliwar navinach aahe. Ha post baghun malahi kahi lihavasa watala. Dokyat ek-don kathahi gholatahet pan tya matra Devnagricha nit sarav zalyavarach karan asa english madhla marathi vachayla titkishi maja nahi yet. Pan kay karu ha vishayach asa aahe ki Devnagrichi practice hoiparyant rahavnar nahi mhanun lihite aahe.
Mi ethe Nitachi katha vachli. Mazahi anubhav sangavasa vatatoy karan kadhi kadhi aapan aaple anubhav (specially wayit) astil tar aai kiwwa bahinila dekhil sangtana donada vichar karto.
Maza lagna ya May mahinyatach zalay. Lagnanantar ek mahinach mi sasari rahile. Pan tya ek mahinyatle anubhav hi phar wayit aahet.
Mazya sasri Sasu sasre, Nanand aani ek Dir aahe. Maza navra saglyat motha aani gharat tasa baryapaiki ladka (aata to US la aalyapasun ladka zalay ki aadhipasunach hota te mahit nahi.Karan maza lek maldar aahe aani bahinichya lagnachi sarva jababdari mhanje kharchachi tyane uchalali aahe asa abhimanane sangtat tya saglyanna)
Lagnanantar Marriage certificate, Passport madhe nav change karne aani visa hi sagli kama asalyamule aamhi honeymoon plan kela navta. Jar jamlech tar 2-4 divas kuthetari jauya asa tharavla hota (Je shevatparyant jamla nahi) Lagnanantar 2 divsat mostly sagle pahune parat gele agdi hatachya dotawar mojnyaetkech rahile hote aani tehi eka aathavdyat gele.
Mala aadhi pasun navnavin padartha karnyachi haus (aani te karun saglyanna impress karnyachihi)tyamule mi lagech kamala surwat keli. Jo paryant gharat pahune hote mazya saglya dishes cha khup kautuk aikayla milaycha. Matra jase pahune gele Mummysahebanni rang dakhvayla survat keli. Mi kahihi banvat asle ki kitchen madhe ubhe rahun lakshya thevaychya aani bharpur suchna karychya. Mi tharavla ajibat wayit vatun ghyaycha nahi aani ragvaychahi nahi. Ek divas sakali kitchen madhe pawool taklyawar mala mhanalya "mi aajach kamvalikadun sagla otta saf karun ghetlay. Dupari sagla aawrun zalyawarahi mala to asach wyavasthit disla pahije" kharatar mi hi to rajach dupari aani ratri awartana vyawasthit saf karat ase. Mi mhatla thik aahe. Lagech Pudhchi Suchna " aaj jevayla ------banavne.Tula swayampakache walan lagle pahije nit mhanun tula sangtey." Maza sagla swayampak hoiparyant ya tithech ubhya aani tondane badbad chalu. Dusrya divshi Ravivar. gharat saglyanna machhi baryapaiki awadte. Mala khayla tar awadtech pan saf karayla, vikat ghetana kolin mavshila mska marun var lavun dyayla sangayla aani ghasaghis karaylahi awadte. Mi aani mazi nanand (ti mazya peksha 3 varshanni lahan aahe)jaun machhi gheun aalo. Change char prakar. Gharat shirlywar Mummy sahebanni farman kadhla sasrebuwanna sunbainchya hatchich machhi khychi aahe tevha sarva kahi tuch banav. saf karnyapasun te purna jevan chapatyansakat banvave lagle. Mi CKP aahe aani maza navrahi matra yanchya kade typical CKP paddhatine nahi banvat non veg. MI mazya aaichya hatakhali trained zaleli aslyane mi tya paddhatinech banavli. tondat pahila ghas ghatlyabarobar mazya navryane mazya kade baghun najrenech sangitle aawadle mhanun. Dirane aani sasryanni chaan zalay asa remark dila aani 3 tasach khatatop sarthaki lagla ase watle.
Mazya maheri aani mitra maitrinitahi saglyanna mazya karnyache kautuk. saglya maitrini mhanaychy aamhala tar kahich yet nahi aani tu tar etki expert tula kadhich ya goshtiwarun sasri bolani basnar nahit.
Aaplyala koni farshi madat na karna aani kautuk tar ajibat na karna yachi savay zali tashi barya paiki lavkar. Mummy na aamhi kahi kamanimitta baher gelo tar aaplya lekila sagla karava lagel yachi bharich chinta. Swata tar tyanni kadhich aaplya 2 warshanni ghari aalelya lekala ekahi padartha swatachya hatane banvun khau ghatla nahi.
Ek divas aamhi sakalich baher gelo hoto Passport office madhe yeiparyant duparche 2 wajle hote. Ghari yevun pahte to kaay kitchen madhe khadkhadat. Kay karnar ... ghetla swayampak karayla. Sakali nightana kahi karun baher padle nahi mhanun shiksha hoti mala bahutek. Tase sasryanna kautuk hote maze. Pan mummy pudhe tyanchya tondun shabdahi nighaycha nahi.
Aamchi kamwali roj sakali 9-9.30 la yaychi. aalyawar kapde, bhandi, ker, ladi kareparyant 2-2.30 taas sahaj nighun jayche. Mi tila roj aamchya nashtyamadhle thodese khane aani chaha det ase. te hi mala aikavle. Mi tila chaha denyache kabul kelele nahi tu det jau nakos. tichi sadhi aalyawar chaukashili tya karat nasat. Mi matra ti kitchen madhe bhandi ghaseparyant tichyashi gappa marat ase. Mi janar tya divshi tichyahi dolyat pani aale.
Ekda ti hall chi ladi pusat hoti mhanun aamhi aaple pay war ghevun baslele (Mummy aani mi dogghich gharat hoto) mala mhanalya " Hi ashi sagli kama 9 mahinyache pota gheun keli aahet mi. Tula sagla aayta milalay mhanun tula kimmat nahi." Jar kamvali nasti tar ker ladi karaychihi mazi tayari hoti. Maheri Dupari aai aani ratri mi ase watun ghetle hote he kam. Pan tyanchya samor kay bolnar kappal.
Jire , mohri pasun tikhat mithache dabehi roj shodhave lagayche. Roj ratri tyachi jaga badalaleli asaychi. Jevan banvayche mhanje aadhi sagle kuthe thevle aahe te shodhayche. Gharat ekunach kuthlyahi kamala shista ashi navtich. Ya baine etke varsh sausar kasa kela asel yachech mala rahun rahun aashcharya watayche... ajunahi watate.
Maza visa cha interview lamblyamule mala mazya navryabarobar US la yeta aale nahi. Purna mahinyat mala aai kade niwantapane ek ratrahi rahta aale navte tyamule to gela tyachya dusrya divshi mi aai kade 3 divas rahayla jayche ase saglyanchya upasthitit mazya navryane declare kele.
Ratrichi flight hoti tyachi. Mi dusryadivshi sakali aangholila bathroom madhe janar matra. Mummy " Aaj cha divas changla nahi aaj tu jayche nahi. (aani tya dishi angarika chaturthi hoti) Mala raduch kosalale. Aangholila gele matra aani swatawarach vaitagle. ekach vichar manat aala aapan parat India la kadhi yenar kunas thavuk. aata nahi gelo tar kadhi janar. Mag matra mi patapat awarle aani baher padle. Sasryanni khunenech sangitle tu ja. Tichya kade laksha devu nakos.
Tyanantar mi ethe yayla nigheparyant tya mazyashi bolalyach nahit. (Suchana dene matra chaluch hote)
Mi pregnent aslyachi batmi kalyawarahi " kalji ghe" ase shabdahi tyanchya tondun nighale nahit. Divalila wish karyla mi phone hatat ghetlya barobar tyanni phone sasryanchya hatat devun takla.
Malach kalat nahi maza kuthe aani kay chukla te aani mi next time jevha tikde jain tevha kasa face karnar he sagla?
Lagnachya dishi sunmukh pahtana saglya pahunyansamor "Tu aata mazi mulgi zalis" asa mhananari Mummy hich hoti ka asa mala prashna padla.
Sasri janyarya muline saglyanshi jamavun ghetle pahije hi apeksha agdi tiche aai wadilahi kartat mag tasech sasarchya lokannihi tila samjun ghene garjeche nahi ka ki sun mhanje tila kasehi vagavle tari chalte asech ajunahi mata aahe saglyanche?

Arch
Wednesday, October 29, 2003 - 9:36 pm:

caotnaaÊ barocada saasaUlaa saUna AaplaI competition vaaTto. %yaaMnaa vaaTt AapNa Aaplaa maulagaa gamaavalaa kI kaya mhNaUna. jar tU caaMgalaa svayaMpak krt AsaXaIla tr %yaaMnaa AsahI vaaTt kI Aata ihcaca kÝtuk hÜla mhNaUna. Kr tr %yaat AanaMd vaaTayalaa paihjao.

tulaa jar svayaMpak yaot nasata AaiNa %yaaMnaI jar tulaa iXakvalaa Asata tr %yaacyaat %yaaMnaa maÜzopNaa daKvata Aalaa Asata kI " ihlaa ka ss hI yaot nhvat maIca sagaL iXakvala " mhNaUna.

%yaamauLo tU kahI vaaT vaaTUna Gao} nakÜsa. dula-xa krayalaa iXak.

Seema0618
Wednesday, October 29, 2003 - 10:22 pm:

chetu arch ne sangitlela malahi patatay....aga anyway tu aata tyana varsha 2 varshatun bhetnaar aahes.....
teva ashaveli ya gosticha pharsa vichar karu naye hech khar.
baryach bayaka aaplya mula babtit khoop possesive astat.ashaveli mulache lagna zalyawar to aapla rahila nahi hi bhavana tyana asa vagayala lawate.
pudhachya velela zashil teva kamachi vibhagani karun ghe.tyamule tuzyawar jasta bhar yenar nahi.aani he sarva tuzya navrya barobar jaroor discuss kar.pan aagdi shantapane.karan bahutek navryana tyachy aai vadilan vishayee kahi vait bollel aavadat nahi.tya aata tuzyashi bolat nastil...pan thodya divsani nakki bolayala lagteel.shevati tyanahi tuzi garaj aahech.
tyamule mageil gosti aathvun ugach vartmankal kharab karu nakos.

Seema0618
Wednesday, October 29, 2003 - 10:56 pm:

Sayonara
Thursday, October 30, 2003 - 1:59 pm:

chetu,svaBaavaalaa kahI AÝYaQa nasatM. %yaamauLo dula-xa krNaM ha ekmaova ]paya Aaho karNa tU ]laTUna baÜlalaIsa tr Xabdanao Xabd vaaZNaar. %yaaMcaa svaBaava kQaI badlaola AXaI Apoxaa kÉca nakÜsa.

Chetu08
Thursday, October 30, 2003 - 7:45 pm:

ae, thanx a lot sayonara arch aani Seema. mazya vicharanwar aapli mate prakat kelyabaddal aani ti hi etkya promptly. And ofcourse thanx for the advice. mi tumhi sangitlela sagla nehmich lakshat thevin.

Pan tarihi nehmi asa ka hota tech kalat nahi dat astat tevha chane nastat aani chane astat tevha dat nahi.

Sami
Thursday, October 30, 2003 - 7:56 pm:

chetu, varcaI Aca-Ê saImaa AaiNa saayaÜ caI pÜsT\sa malaahI pTlaI.

tuJaa navara tr tulaa samajaUna GaotÜya naa maga far ivacaar k$ nakÜsa.

tU mhNatosa %yaa p`maaNao tU %yaaMcyaabarÜbar jaomatoma ek maihnaa raihlaIsa. mhNajao jaast vaoL naahI imaLalaa tulaa AaiNa saasau saasaáyaanaa ekmaokaMbarÜbar. maaJyaamato ha evaZasaa kalaavaQaI purosaa nasatÜ ekmaokaMcao svaBaava jaaNaUna Gyaayalaa. pNa jaXaI vaYa-M jaatIla naa tsaM AapÜAapca %yaancaa raga kmaI hÜla tuJyaavarcaa AaiNa gaOrsamaja AsatIla tohI dUr hÜtIla. tovha QaIr Qar.

Yogibear
Thursday, October 30, 2003 - 8:10 pm:

ek gaÜYT KTklaIÊ varcyaa post maQao Asao kÜiNaca mhNalao naahI kI %yaaMnaa samaJauna Gao ikMvaa gap kuzo Aaho %yaacaa XaÜZ Gao.

'faar vichaar karu nakos', 'swabhaavaalaa aushaDh naahI', 'anyway tu aata tyana varsha 2 varshatun bhetnaar aahes....', etc...

AXyaanao na@kI kaya saaQya hÜto²²² Kr problem solve hÜtÜ kaÆ ka hI ek pLvaaT²²²

Sami
Thursday, October 30, 2003 - 8:14 pm:

yaÜgaIÊ Aro tI itqao raihlaI tovha %yaanaa samajaUnaca tr Gaot hÜtI naM. mhNaUna gaPp basalaI.

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