Aaja kala sagaL\yaaca kuTuMbaat navara baayakÜ dÜGaohI professional jobs krtat. %yaamauLo dÜGaaMcaohI jobs tovaZoca mah%vaacao AaiNa jabaabadarIcao Asatat. AXyaavaoLI personal AaiNa professional dÜnhIhI life satisfying zovaNyaasaazI maI Asa krto / krtÜ (aba_la AapaplaI mat / AnauBava ilaihlao tr sagaL\yaaMnaaca ]pyaÜgaI pDtIla Asa vaaTUna ha bb ]GaDto Aaho.
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vvaa²² Cana Aaho ivaYaya. KrÜKrca baáyaaca jaNaaMnaa (atuna kaih naivana ]paya saapDtIlaÊ pNa AjaUna [qao kÜNaI iÔrkla ksa naahI.
maI [qao maaJao AnauBava [t@yaat ilahU Xakt naahI karNa saQyaa trI maaJyaa professional AaiNa personal life maQyao Ôar maÜza problem !! Aalaolaa nahIyao. :-))
pNa [traMcao AnauBava puZo ]pyaÜgaI pDitla..
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mi pan kahich lihu shakat nahi sadhya. pan vachayala nischit aadel karan te khup helpful hoil ase vatate.
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calaa maI ha bb ]GaDlaa tr maIca sauÉvaat krto. lagna hÜ[pya-Mt balance krayacaa p`XNa Aalaa naahI. lagna Jaalyaavar US laa AalyaamauLo toMvhahI jaaNavalao naahI karNa school, assistanship (at Ô> grades caaMgalyaa imaLlyaa naahIt tr saasarI kaya vaaTola Asa vaaTt rhayaca. pNa maula Jaalyaavar maa~ super mom, super wife and super employee (amaQyao kXaat trI tD\jaÜD krayalaa paihjao (acaI garja vaaTayalaa laagalaI AaiNa maga Asa zrvala .....
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waitng for more arch: chaalu dyaa..
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hmm arch chan vishay ahe....upyogi tharel....
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arch: ka pause ghetlas?? bol na..
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Aarechya!!! dÜna idvasa Jaalao ajun konich kahi post nahi kele ethee!!!
Professional Life & Personal Life hya ekach naaNyachya don baaju aahet aase nahi ka vataat! Khara ter hya BB chya prashnache utter hya prashnachya utteraat daDlele aahe...."ekhaadi vyakti (navra agar bayko) kiti career minded aahe?" aani upto what level they can sacrifice professional life for personal life?
This was just to start some conversation here....
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Yogi
toca tr jaaNauna GyaayacayaÊ kI sacrifice iktI AaiNa ksa krta yaotÆ....
Aro kÜiNatrI [qao post kra ro...
Arch baa kaya zrvala to saaMgaa kI.. ka [qao KBC saarKa KoL sauÉ krayacaayaÆ
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mala vatata, ya BB la purak ashi postings swatid chya BB var zali ahet.
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tr maI AaiNa maaJyaa navaáyaanao imaLUna kahI decisions Gaotlao. malaa svat : caI maula svat : vaaZvaayacaI hÜtI mhNajao AgadI lahana vayaat babysitter kDo zovaayacaI nhvatI %yaamauLo maI maaJaa well paid job saÜDUna university t part time evening teaching job accept kolaa. %yaamauLo maaJyaa professional subject XaI touch raihlaa %yaacavaoLI navaáyaalaa maulaaMbarÜbar ekT\yaalaa vaoL imaLalaa. We raised the kids together. I did not miss on their growing up years maI duparcaI maulaaMnaa story hour, skating vagaOrolaa naovaU XakayacaI.
GarkamaatpNa equal distribution hÜt. mhNajao svayapk maI krayacaa %yaanao baakI sava- Avarayaca. weekend cleaning was his part
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maI [qao baroca khI ilahu XaktÜÊ pNa iBatI vaaTto.
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AaiXaXaÊ kÜNaacaI iBatI vaaTtoÆ Â0´
Aro ilahI kI. p`%yaokaca thinking jaaNaUna ivacaar krayalaa AaiNa iXakayalaa vaava naahI ka imaLtÜÆ
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Aschig...lihi re...amhala pan kahi navin shikta yeil..ghabru nakos asa :)
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aga arch, secrets ashi reveal keli tar tyala tya idea parat vaparta yenar nahit na..:):)
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Savya: *lol*
Aschiq: aare bindhast....aamhi sagale aahot naa tujhya pathishi ;o)
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savyasachi is right.
yogi, tumhi pathishi aahat - paN samor dekhil tar koNitari aahe na!
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ha kay GTP aahe ka lajun dakhavaycha BB aahe? ekane nako nako mhanalyasarakhe karayache ani itaranni are sang re sang re karat basayache ani he sagale archive honar...
aschiq tumhala sangayache nasel tar naka sangu pan nako nako karanyat BB vaya ghalavu naka please!!
aamachyasarakhe kahi lok ha BB kahi insights milatil ka yasathi vachato tevha pleas spare us!
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kuNi tari thanD paNi otare ajjuka var. punha peTali aahe.
anyway, aapalyaala vaaya ghaalawaayalaa Tem naahi, tyaamuLe vishayaakaDe waLu ya: manya, ajjuka tumachya aadhichyaa posting warun ase jaaNawate ki tumachaa samaj aahe ki "personal life" he lagnanatar suru hote (khare tar personal life lagnabarobar sampate, pan mi ase mhanTale ase kuNala saangu naka).
arch ni prashna specefically doghehi nokari karat astil tar kaay karayache asa wicharala aahe. tine evening job karun ticha prashna sodawala. pan mag nawara-bayako ekmekanbarobar diwasatil jast wel ghalawu shakat nahit.
khare tar aamhala ha prashna khup prakharateni jaNawala nahi. aamachyaa sau.ni baryapaiki nehamich parttime job kela aahe. maze field researchche asalyamuLe timing swataawar aste, tyamulE jayla (aamacha mulaga) saambhaaLaayala, in general, mala nehamich jamu shakate.
ekuN majhe ashe mat aahe ki prashna ha nehamich tumachya priorities cha asato. tumhala kaay aawashyak aahe, tumachya kaay apeksha aahet etc. (jagakadun/partnerkadun/mulaankadun).
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I feel that it is important to invest rather than spend time.
jar tumhi aayushyaakaDe niwwaL ek kasarat mhaNun pahaat asal tar tumhaal baryaach goshTi balance karawyaa lagatil. tumhi jar jiwan jagat asaal tar goshTi aapoaapach hot rahaatil. ek mahatwaachi goshTa mhaNaje, gharatil itaranna weL detanna swatahala dyayalaa wisaru nakaa.
e.g. mi dar shaniwari 4 taas cricket khelayala jato (ho, US madhye). yetanna aathawadyachya groceries titakyach nemani karato.
mulaanchi development karatanna swatachi thambu dewu nakaa. While you should not ignore children, remember that they are not entirly dependent on you.
swatache chhand jopasa, tyat itaranna sahabhagi karun ghyaa, tyanche chhand vikasit kara. TV pahat barobar basanYaaaiwaji ekhada boardgame khela.
ekuN kaay tar tumhi karat asalelya kiti goshTi fajil aahet te jaNun ghyaa aaNi tyanna kaat dyaa. time management jamali ki nimme prashNa gayab hotat.
mi bharkaTtoy kaa?
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ashish,
tumcha bhau maths olympiad la hota ka ho? (Abhijit?)
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Ho. Punyat bheTala hota?
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AaiXaYaÊ caaMgalao points Aahot. pNa priorities zrvatanaa kXaalaa ksao mah%va Vayaca ho ksa krta %yaavar sauKI saMsaar AvalaMbaUna AsatÜ. Asa maaJa mat Aaho.
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ha topic ]GaDtanaa Asa vaaTla kI laÜk Aaplao AnauBava ilaihtIla AaiNa %yaamauLo iXakta yaola savaa-Mnaaca. puZcyaasa zoca maagacaa XahaNaa (a ]>Ip`maaNao pNa Aata vaaTt kI jar vaadacaa ivaYaya nasaola tr kÜNaalaa %yaat ivaXaoYa interest nasatÜ.
admin ha bb baMd k$ yaa kaÆ
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arch, admin chi icchha, saafsafai cha diwas ugawe paryant suru rahu dyayala kahich harkat nahi. anekada navin lok kadmadtaat ani kahi tari chaan lihun jaataat.
generally, balancing act atishay sapeksha asate, navara-bayako chya swabhavanwar awalambun aste, konatya prakarachi nokari aahe, kase hours aahte yawarun goshti tharatat. Too many variables mhanun kadachit lokanni lihile nasel.
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arch, lagech asa blame nako ga sagalyanvar. mi, manya etc sarakhe kahi lok ha BB vachatoy future sathi tar kahi jan kharech ase asatil ki je he life balance karu shakalech nasatil mag tyanna ya vishayavar kay lihayache ha prashna padu shakato na! mhanun kadachit farase konich lihit nahiye ithe.
ok my 2 cents here.. mi ani mazya bhavi navryane lagna karayacha nirnay ghetla tevha ek goshta spashta hoti ki aamhi doghehi atyant career minded ani ambitious aahot ani gharachya jababdarit adakun padane konalach ekala jamanyasarakhe nahi tevha ji kay gharatli jababdari asel ti ardhi ardhi vatun ghyayachi. ajunatari ya baddal aamachyat dumat nahiye ani ajun lagnala 2 mahine avakash aslyane khare kay te kalale nahiye.
personal life yamadhe ghar ani tya jababdarya ha ek bhag aahe. ekmekansathi vel dene, kinwa ekatra kahi goshti karane ha pan ek mahatvacha bhag aahe. jo anekada doghe jan career minded astil tar durlakshit hou shakato (mitramaitrininchya udaharanavarun..) ani mag communication thamblyamule problems yeu shakatat.
aamhi doghehi ashya field madhe aahot ki jithe sakali 8-5 kinwa tatsam ase tharavik hours asu shakat nahit. ekhadya divashi 2-2, 3-3 shift madhe shoot asu shakate tar ekhada divas purna rikama asu shakato. ekhada divas basun nuste kam karanyacha asel tar ekhada kame ani meetings karat hindanyacha asel. mala ani tyala ekach divashi off asel asehi nahi. kahi velela 2-3 divas ekmekanchi tonde hi disat nahit ashi paristhiti yeu shakate. free lance kam karat aslyane kamachya babtit nidan suruvatichi kahi varshe tari kuthlya tadajodi karun chalat nahit. ashya velela ekmekanna velach deu shakalo nahi tar natyala kinwa lagnala arth tari kay rahyla asa prashan yeto. mag aamhi ek tharavale ki hota hoil titake ekatra kam karayache. arthat tase shakya aahe mhanunach. pan tyamule nidan apan barobar tari asu asa vichar hota. ha zala survaticha prashna.. ajunahi mool ya vishayavar aamacha nirnay zalela nahi ani we are not in a hurry anyways. mul janmala ghalun apan tyachya vadhikade yogya te laksha deu shakat nasu, enough vel deu shakat nasu tar aaplyala mool janmala ghalanyacha adhikarach nahi ase mala vatate. tyamule kadachit mool nakoch asa nirnay hi hou shakato. yes both of us will suffer from this nirnay pan nirnay aamacha tevha suffering hi aamache he bare na nirnay aamacha ani suffering matra tya navin jeevache ase asnyapeksha..aso..
khup badabadale..!! ani tehi sagale ajun hypothetical ch aahe. pratyakshat suru vhayala vel aahe.
aschiq,
personal life he lagnashi sampate ha vinod mhanun thik pan kharetar mi agree nahi. lagnachya aadhi personal life asate pan tyat balancing bhag kami asato. arthat tumhi ekate rahat asal tar mag kadachit goshta vegali aste pan aai vadilanchya gharat asatana jababdarya kami astat tyamule ha balancing act titka khadatar nasato mhanaje BB var discuss karanyaitaka tar nakkich nahi. nahi ka?
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Ajjuka: nice one :o) will be looking fwd for your next post (after marriage).
Kahi anubhavlelya goshti wa kahi observational.....
Arch ne lihilya pramaane balancing becomes crucial jevha mula jeevanacha ek bhaag bantaat. Navra bayko hya jeevan rupi gaadi chi chaaka aastaat ter mule tyatle pravasi. Arthaat gaadicha tol haa chakkanver aadharit aasto hyaat dumaatach nahi aahe. Pun jas-jase mulanna samajh yeu lagte tas-tase jar navra-bayko ne tyanna swatahachya responsibility chi jaaniv karun dili/mahatva patvun dile (this does not mean they r no more responsible for there childrens) ter teh sarvanach soyiskar padte, arthaat haa prakaar me farach durmil pramanaat baghitla aahe.
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arch: majhyasarkhe barech jana asatil ki jyanchya jivanat ajun "balancing act" chi ajun garaj padaleli nahi. im referring particularly to bachelors/spinsters who are at the start of their careers and therefore not really affected by this issue. hence they are more "readers" rather than "writers" ...
however, as you said "pudhchyaas thech magcha shahana" ... so looking forward to more comments coming up on this issue... better late than never : so id say, let the BB be......
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AjjaukaÊ ek maaJaa experience saaMgaU kaÆ maI AaiNa maaJaa navara ekda ekaca consulting company t kama krayacaÜ. maga GarI jaovatanaapNa office cyaaca gaÜYTI vhayacyaa. naMtr la@Xaat Aala kI kamaÊ office (atca AapNa iktI gaurÔTUna gaolaÜ AahÜt. (apuZo jaovatanaa kmaaba_la discussion krayaca naahI. We have to seperate work and home life . Aamaca ek doctor couple ima~ Aahot. to GarI patients var discussion krt naahIt. It is hard to seperate personal and professional life sometimes. Since both of you work in the same field, I thought our experience might be helpful
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he khar aahe Arch..jar ka ekach companit kam karat asatil doghe hi..ani ghari aalywar suddha tyach tyach gosti bolayala lagalo tar...dusar kahi bolayala welach rahanarach nahi..ani kadhi kadhi tyamule waad suddha hou shakato (waad hoilach ase nahi..pan hou suddha shakto)..
tyamule kadhi kadhi mala asahi watat..ki navara ani bayako doghehi wegweglya fields madhale asatil tar..tyana ekamekachya fields madhale anubhav suddha kalatil ani navin kahi tari shikayala hi milel..
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first of all arch thanks for sharing the experience I will keep that in mind.
but this is what I think and it may be wrong. I think it depends on the profession you are in. mhanaje ase aahe ki mi ani maza navara ekach field madhe aslo tari aamache kaam agadi nirale aahe. tyamule kadachit ekatra kam karunahi aaja aaplay aaplaya front var kay ghadale he discuss karane mhanaje almost veglya professin chay goshti share karanya sarakhech hoilhi kadaciht. mala swatala tari kharech manapasun ase vatate ki aamachyasarakhya unconventional fields madhe asanaryancha jodidar jar tyach kinwa tashyach prakarachya field madhala asel tar things can go more smoothly. mhnaje ashya field chya requirements kay asu shakatat ani how to deal with those he generally tyach field madhalya lokanna kalu shakate.
arthat waad, ego problems yanchyahi shakyata aahetach. pan dusare kahi bolayala vel na rahane is far more better than kahich sanvad nasane ase mala tari vatate. vishay changlach bharakatala!!
I dont have any more hypothesi to say here. anubhavache bol tar kaalach deil tevha.. ityalam|
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Hemukaka
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ima~hÜ namaskar
ivaXaya Krca caangalaa Aaho malaa pNa KUp AavaDlaa vacaUna jara majaa vaaTlaI. ho Asaoca caalaU Va naI
vaad mhNaUna nakÜ Ô> sausaMvaad Asaavaa ho Apo@Xaa Aaho bar ka
homaukaka
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Rpp
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maaJao lagna caar mahInyaapuvaI- Jaalao Aaho.GarI AamhI dÜGaoca AsatÜ....pNa %yaacaI malaa barIca madt
hÜto. rÜjacyaa svayampakat hI tÜ hatBaar laavatÜ..%yaamauLo sausanvaad saaQaayalaa madt hÜto...²
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Arch
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baa ikMvaa navara Garabaahor naÜkrI krt nasalaa ³ mhNajao GaratUnahI consulting vagaOro krt nasalao´ tr baayakÜnao %yaacyaakDUna ikMvaa navaáyaanao itcyaakDUna Gar kamaat madtIcaI Apo@Xaa
zovaNa barÜbar Aaho kaÆ
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Rajasee
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tula nakki kaay mhanayche aahe arch, mala kalale nahi ...
nokari na-karnarya vyaktine nokri karnarya vyakti kadun gharkamachi apeksha thevu naye ka??
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