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Saloni
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| | Thursday, May 22, 2003 - 9:30 am: | 
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I APOLOGISE FOR THE MSG ON THIS BB...but didnt know the appropriate bb to post it... so here it goes:
i don't mean to add fuel to the fire...but i was STRONGLY criticized by "sasuli" for switching gears on a particular BB some days ago. in fact i had no idea that there were separate bbs for separate topics then...'cause i came across this page accidentally and that was my first day here. all i did was i gave a recipe to someone who wanted it. i agree i was wrong, but the way that mistake was brought to my notice by "sasuli" was pretty rude. how ironic it is that the same person is now being criticized for the same mistake!!!! well i was totally discouraged from adding any more msgs on the bbs. so now i just stick to the antaksharis. once again i apologise for this msg that is so irrelevant to this BB...but i just HAD to write it. i will not write any more msgs here even if i get a response to this posting...cause then the purpose of this BB will not be served.
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Admin
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| | Sunday, July 04, 1999 - 5:47 am: |
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Saloni,
first of all thanks for being sensitive to others. As I see from your message above, somebody was not sensitive to you. Well, all I can say that we try to remind people not to be rude. Unfortunately because lack of resources we can not monitor each and every post. But if you think you were treated badly, you can certainly bring it to my attention. We would also like to see that just one person "not controlling" a topic. Sometime the person did not mean it rude, but it comes as rude because the medium can not express all the feelings behind it.
I would like to reassure you that not everybody here is rude and you (or any member for that matter) is welcome to post anywhere on hitguj. Maintaining decorum and politeness is more important to us than maintaining the subject. We like people keeping subject in mind but we also know subject change happens many times here. It increases my work personally. But I would prefer increased work rather than maaybolikars not posting anything.
Hope to see more posts from you soon !
If anybody wants to add his/her comments, you are very welcome. Do not worry about subject change as I will move those under a new subtopic under "view and comments".
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Neo
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| | Sunday, July 04, 1999 - 6:06 am: |
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Admin,
Changing subject in the flow of the conversation is understandable. But when all people are talking in a linked way, responding to each other on a common link/theme, typing "kaay re xyz, ithe post karayala laaglaas kaa re dhampya" in between, is acceptable? It's distraction, not changing of subject in the flow. I dont object to change in the subject, it's bound to be there, but just talking irrelavent things..I don't see a reason for that.
Anyway, I took this space since you invited the comments here. Else I was not going to write anything here.
Adios Amigo!
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Sasuli
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| | Monday, July 05, 1999 - 12:08 am: |
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"please njman...ani saloni....please ikade asha gappana suru karu
naka..please...karan sagla mood badlto...so please....dusarya BBs var jaun bola
...krupa karun... " (Salonila mazya ya comment baddal akshep asava, Ref BB: Bhet Maaybolikarannchi,Section : Archives)
-saglyat pahile mala he sanga mi he je lihile ahe yat yevdhe manala lagun ghenya sarkhe kay ahe...
ek gosht...mahatwachi..ki mi he jya BB var Salonila he lihile hote to BB hota Bhet Maaybolikarannchi ha...ata yat ek mahatwache ase kahitari apan tharavnar hoto...mhanje kahi imp details ki ji necessary ahet he ghadavun aanyakarita...tar yat tumhi jar ekdam food recipie che kahitari bolayla laglat tar kase chalel....tithe serious discussion chalu hote..kahitari creative ani nave ghadat hote...pan tyacha sambandh tumhi lok mi ithe je lihile ahe...tya BBchi kasa lau shakta....ha BB time pass karnyacha ahe....ahe ki nahi te sanga...mag ithe jara tp zala tar kay farak padla.....ithe thodech kahi serious chalu ahe ki jya varun aplyala kahitari decesion ghaycha ahe....ki jyane kahi atta farak padnar ahe...? ase ahe ka kahi ithe? mag ithe kahi post kele tar kay farak padla? tumchi feeling hurt ka zali?
ani var mi je mhanalo ase Saloniche mhanane ahe yat manala lavun ghenya sarkhe kay ahe...mi fakt mhanalo ki ikade ase bolu naka karan ithe kahitari mahatwache tharte ahe...ki je ajun paryant kadhich ghadlele nahiye... so fakt je chalale ahe tyacha flow maintain karnya karta mi he bolalo...karan mala ase vatle ki ashyane ugach apan dusarya kuthlya tari topic kade jau..tyane hi kahi farak padnar nahi...pan he je project ahe saglyanna bhetnyache ...te mukhya ekda tharle mhanje mag itar kahihi bolayla harkat nahi...
yat mala kunalahi dukhvaycha hetu navhta...ani tya mule kunachya feelings la dhakka pochla asel tar ...I AM REALLY VERY SORRY.....yat rude ase vatnya sarkhe kahihi nahi....mala tya velela je vatle te manapasun lihile karan mi ya get together madhe khup interested ahe...rather malach hi kalpana saglyanchya kanavar ghalavi ase vatle mhanun mi to BB tayar kela....
ata Saloni jar tyach divshi accidently tikade ali ani mi tila ase mhanalo tar yat maze kay chukle...mala kase kalnar ki hi navin ahe..yane ekhadyachi man dukhavel.... ani te dukhavnyakarita mi tase mulich lihilele navhte....ani ya varun itkya tokachi bhumika....ki messege postach karnar nahi ase ghene kitpat grahya ahe he mala samjat nahi...ani tase jar saloni, tula vatle asel...ani Admin tulahi ase vatat asel tar mi mazi chuk purnpane manya karto...ani tumhala mazi bhasha rude, kharab, decorum and politeness cha bhang karnari ashi vatat asel tar tumhala jar mi kahi post karu naye...ani mazya mule ithlya shistila tada jat asel...maza lokanna tras hot asel...lokanchi mane dukhavli jat astil...ani mi jar attaparyant lihilele sagle ashach prakarchya bhavnetun lihile ahe ase tumha sarvanna vatat asel tar mi nakki ithe yene band karnyas tayar ahe.....
tari tumha sarvanna kay vatate te mala nakki sanga..
neo, are ekhadi vyakti tumhala jar mail ani fone var bhetat nasel ani fakt ithech bhetat asel...kinvha ekdam kadhitari ithe ugvat asel...ki jyane tumhala ashchrya vatat asel tichya yenyache...tar tya veli alele feeling tumhi kase dabun taku shakal...tya velo mala ekdam je manapasun vatle te mi ithe lihile...tar hi suddha chuk zali ka? ase vatat asel tumhala tar nakki sanga....ani yatunahiu tula neo tras zala asel tar nakki "SORRY....are atta paryant amhi ithe nahi saglyach BB var asach tp karaycho...jase apan itar mitrann barobar bolto...tasech...karan Maaybolishi ata mazya Bhavna associate zalya ahet...mala ithe changale mitra milale ahet.....so jara chakori baher gelo tar tula tyatun tras zala ase vatate...
mi asach regulat tp saglikade kelyane mala mitra milale...pan mi ata nakki badlto swat: la......
parat ekda sangto ki mi salonila je lihile to BB ani to contextach vegala hota....ani tithe ashya prakarchya postings ne kharokhar vishyantar hot hote ki jyatun apan kahitari achieve karnar hoto...
so parat ekda mi tumchya sarvanchi JAHIR MAFI magto ki jyane tumhi lok kharech dukhavlele dista ase postings mi parat kadhihi karnar nahi rather jar postings karuch naye ase vatat asel tar tyasahi mi ytayar ahe... ani BB shi related ase fakt formal postings karayla mi sangen mi mazya contact madhe aslelya Maaybolikaranna....ani kadhihi vahavat jau naka tumchya feelings pan hurt karun gheu naka ani dusaryanchyahi hurt karu naka ase pan nakki sangen.....
parat ekda ha topic DIVERT kelya baddal KSHAMASVA...
-SARANG
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Admin
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| | Monday, July 05, 1999 - 3:52 am: |
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some random thoughts:
This is democratic process. There are bound to be difference of opinions on any subjects, including this one. You are welcome to post your thoughts even if you do not agree with me, as long as you are not rude.
0. We all are here for fun. So anything here should not be taken too seriously to hurt your own feelings.But you should be carefull not to hurt somebody elses feelings, just because you want too much fun.
1. we just can't enforce strict subject rules because of number of new messages. Even if we try, many times half of the message is relevant and half is not. So this has to come from other maaybolikars who are interested in the topic and following it up.
2 You can "politely" remind somebody to follow the subject and not divert too much.
3. Sometimes somebody becomes too enthusiastic and writes the same message on multiple topics without any respect to others. Rather than the message, the person is just trying to get attention and best way is to just ignore.
4. It is human nature that the person who starts a topic (BB) thinks his is the important one. I see this all the time from different members. Imagine what will happen when everybody thinks his is important and the other one is not !!! I think what is important is decided by reader and is different for every reader. So if you don't think a topic is important, respect the time and feelings of others. Somebody else may be thinking it is important. All topics (BB) are equal including "general time pass". The participants there may want to do "just timepass" and won't like any serios stuff (which is a subject change for them) there.
5. If you met somebody suddenly and want to convey that surprise, you can always write to the topic first and send email to the person or request for his email address as a last line. Now if that person is not replying to your phone or email, hitguj can't be answer. The person may be trying to avoid you and just writing here won't serve the purpose to contact him.
You are welcome to post your thoughts about the subject in general. But please no more thoughts about this particular incident or persons involved. That won't serve any purpose.
sasuli, neo, saloni let us shake hands and get back to having fun !!
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Swatid
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| | Tuesday, July 06, 1999 - 4:38 pm: |
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very well put Admin.
I hope the message gets across, without any hard feelings.
Maayboli is a link to our land for a lot of us, and this is where we come to feel 'in touch' with home, mhanun marathi madhe lihito, mhanun recipes exchange karto , ani mhanunach bhetaycha pun tharavtoy.
Hya BB war kiti tari topics war apan sagle manapasun bolto, thoda ikde tikde zala, tar durlaksha kara. ithe apan mitra jodayla yeto na, ekmekanchya univaa kadhayla nahi.
hech aple actual mitra aste, roj bhetat asto, tari suddha kiti goshti apan chalvun gheto, ekhadyachi savay mhanun, or haluch sangun baghto, ki try not to do this. lets put this all behind us, Sarang, Saloni, Neo. sarang, tu jar ka maayboli war ala nahis, tar rikama rikama vatel :)asa kasa yenar nahi mahntos. Saloni, you are new here, and samast maaybolikars welcome you, and its unfortunate that you should have had a bad experience as soon as you joined us, but forgive and forget :) and join in the fun.
And kudos to you Admin, can i say here, this is exactly what was expected of an efficient Admin :)
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Aroon
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| | Tuesday, July 06, 1999 - 7:06 pm: |
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I agree with Swatid. Although it may be logical to compartmentalize our thoughts and stick to the 'subject at hand'; I suspect many of us surf through various discussions to either look for a favorite contributor or a stimulating thought or an old favorite subject and when a thought gells in one's mind it is not always at the appropriate discussion so like Swatid says - thoDa ikDe tikDe zAla tar ekmekAna sabhAlun ghena is more desirable than taking one to task.
Maayboli provides us all with a forum to express our thoughts and learn from each other even 'compare notes' as to our feelings,reactions in this foreign land.
As a person who has lived in this country for a few years I have observed that as BhAratiya we need to learn to form coalition or stick-togetherness than pointing out and worse yet pounding somebody for expressing a thought or thoughts that others don't necessarily agree with. e.g. If a discussion is not worth starting it will whither on the vine without any rules or comments to shoot it down.
Admin's thoughts above are laudatory. Let us continue to respect each other's thoughts and feelings without being gushy about it. common courtesy with minimal restrictions or rules will keep Hitguj thriving as it has been.
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Njman
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| | Friday, July 09, 1999 - 4:06 am: |
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I do agree with Admin and Swatid's thoughts. We are here to exchange thoughts, make friends and enjoy. Since it is public area its absolutely possible to have differences in thinking. After all its entirely upto the reader to decide the importance of the topic/comments and pay attention accordingly.
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as admin sayz it: we are here for fun.
so why not just leave the topic....let us not make a mountain out of a mole hill!!!
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Gautamj
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| | Friday, July 09, 1999 - 6:14 pm: |
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"rai cha parvat" ?
sahi re ajun ek mhan sapadli.
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